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The excitement of going out on a first date can sometimes interfere with a person's true perception of the other person. 
Luckily for Twitter user @Hadia_S, she had a second pair of eyes to confirm what her inner voice may have been trying to tell her about the man with whom she was having a cup of coffee.
A concerned patron of the coffee shop, who was sitting near the couple, felt compelled to send Hadia a heads up after he noticed something was off about their date. 
So when Hadia's potential suitor left to use the restroom, the observant stranger scribbled a special note for her.
"I had coffee with a guy yesterday. When he went to the bathroom, the gay guy sitting behind me passed me this note," wrote Hadia, and posted a photo of the message.
I had coffee with a guy yesterday. When he went to the bathroom, the gay guy sitting behind me passed me this note pic.twitter.com/LgIVsrvlwx
 — H.S. (@H.S.)
        1629043780
The note read:
"Too many red flags. Run. Be safe, girl."@Hadia_S/Twitter

People wanted to know more details about the vibe the quiet ally had picked up on.
One user asked:
"I can't help but wonder how bright red those flags were for a complete stranger notice AND write a warning note. Big Yikes."Hadia responded:
"As bright as my red nails."
As bright as my red nails
 — H.S. (@H.S.)
        1629061190
Hadia admitted her date wasn't "THAT bad" but she did mention how the note opened her eyes more to the situation.

It honestly wasn\u2019t THAT bad\u2026.until after he came out the bathroom. Everything he said after the note was a major red flag
 — H.S. (@H.S.)
        1629052467
People wanted to know if she abruptly aborted the date. 
did you listen? cause if anyone knows men better, it\u2019s GAY MEN
 — Straight Men Pisser Offer \ud83d\ude18\ud83c\udf19\u2728 (@Straight Men Pisser Offer \ud83d\ude18\ud83c\udf19\u2728)
        1629060129

Okay...if a gay man tells you to run. Girl u better get going
 — Marie Michelle\ud83c\uddf1\ud83c\udde7\u2764\ufe0f\ud83c\uddf1\ud83c\udde7\ud83d\udd4a\ud83c\uddf8\ud83c\uddf3\ud83c\udde8\ud83c\uddf5\ud83c\uddf1\ud83c\uddf7 (@Marie Michelle\ud83c\uddf1\ud83c\udde7\u2764\ufe0f\ud83c\uddf1\ud83c\udde7\ud83d\udd4a\ud83c\uddf8\ud83c\uddf3\ud83c\udde8\ud83c\uddf5\ud83c\uddf1\ud83c\uddf7)
        1629063327

I know he was DISGUSTED by that man. You better listen, sis!https://twitter.com/Hadia__S/status/1426939156643651585\u00a0\u2026
 — Game of Throats \ud83c\uddec\ud83c\uddfe\ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\ud83c\udf08 (@Game of Throats \ud83c\uddec\ud83c\uddfe\ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\ud83c\udf08)
        1629079760

We straight women are better because of all the gay men in this world.
 — VacciCohenated \ud83c\uddee\ud83c\uddf1\u2721\ufe0f\ud83d\ude82 (@VacciCohenated \ud83c\uddee\ud83c\uddf1\u2721\ufe0f\ud83d\ude82)
        1629062823

But instead of ditching the unsuspecting date, Hadia said she decided to "debate him" since she felt she "wasn't in danger." 


@Hadia_S/Twitter
Hadia also mentioned she would've picked up on the "red flags" eventually, with or without the stranger's note.
However, she added the note "was greatly appreciated and added some laughs to my night."
She also clarified there would be no second date. 
There were a few other GLARING red flags that I won\u2019t mention, but don\u2019t worry, I would have recognized them with or without the note. But the note was greatly appreciated and added some laughs to my night. There won\u2019t be a second date
 — H.S. (@H.S.)
        1629128685
Users continued weighing in with their observations. 

I would have stayed for the debate though. Maybe even have a few head nods in solidarity if I agreed with your points. . But seriously, I always say politics, religion and popular-culture should be discussed last. It can be such a downer.
 — Tony Bartholomew (@Tony Bartholomew)
        1629128680

He was listening to their conversation with this face expressionpic.twitter.com/V0G22GVp7R
 — Voldemort (@Voldemort)
        1629062569

I\u2019m not saying believe him sis but.....BELIEVE HIM SISpic.twitter.com/ZrktQlXPqL
 — ny. (@ny.)
        1629067432

You can trust Mr. Gay's advice because he was alarmed enough to care for you personally for your safety.\nYou can also trust his advice because he didn't have any motivation to get into your pants.\nUnless those pants happened to have a gay flair to them.pic.twitter.com/bggCZX6nTx
 — Mr Good Cat (@Mr Good Cat)
        1629078720

Take that advice and run girl.  Men who have many red flags usually don\u2019t change or rarely change. Whether the male that told you that is gay, Bisexual, straight or whatever and they warn you about a male. Take that advice.
 — Allison M. Hietala \ud83d\udcda\ud83e\udddb\ud83c\udffb\u200d\u2640\ufe0f (@Allison M. Hietala \ud83d\udcda\ud83e\udddb\ud83c\udffb\u200d\u2640\ufe0f)
        1629083996

That's a kind, kind stranger. Him being gay is a little extraneous, but I guess it made him able to recognize the red flags the dude you were out with was dropping. I'm glad he passed you that note, though! Saves you time and energy invested into a crappy relationship!
 — Krista Abels, RP (@Krista Abels, RP)
        1629065473


I always say trust your gut but if you don't then trust the gays!
 — Andr\u00e9a Frost (@Andr\u00e9a Frost)
        1629066146

Hey, he\u2019s protecting women. Love to see it
 — shauna (@shauna)
        1629061192

Apparently, strangers recognizing a questionable dating situation and letting it be known is a thing. 

I once was on a date with a man when a waitress turned her face to me and silently but pointedly mouthed the word \u201cno.\u201d I wasn\u2019t sure what was happening. She turned out to be a sage.
 — Cynthia Brumfield (@Cynthia Brumfield)
        1629064475

A few years ago, a woman sitting next to me in a Philly bar did this for me. She was right.https://twitter.com/hadia__s/status/1426939156643651585\u00a0\u2026
 — G O L D I E. (@G O L D I E.)
        1629076214
People couldn't help but comment on the CVS receipt on which the message was scribbled. 


Those 5 ft CVS receipts come in handy occasionallyhttps://twitter.com/hadia__s/status/1426939156643651585\u00a0\u2026
 — Sad\u00e9 Lindsay (@Sad\u00e9 Lindsay)
        1629072541

He gave up a CVS receipt to save you.\n\nNot only did he risk his personal business exposed, he gave up thousands in coupons. \n\nHeed his words.
 — All Wise Dog (@All Wise Dog)
        1629061546

Hadia later said her only regret was not exchanging numbers with the helpful stranger so that she could "compare notes."

I was just telling my friend how upset I am for not exchanging numbers to compare notes...lmao
 — H.S. (@H.S.)
        1629058874
People often say we should mind our own business. 
While that axiom should apply in many situations, looking out for a woman's safety could be the one good exception. 
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The excitement of going out on a first date can sometimes interfere with a person's true perception of the other person.

Luckily for Twitter user @Hadia_S, she had a second pair of eyes to confirm what her inner voice may have been trying to tell her about the man with whom she was having a cup of coffee.

A concerned patron of the coffee shop, who was sitting near the couple, felt compelled to send Hadia a heads up after he noticed something was off about their date.

So when Hadia's potential suitor left to use the restroom, the observant stranger scribbled a special note for her.

"I had coffee with a guy yesterday. When he went to the bathroom, the gay guy sitting behind me passed me this note," wrote Hadia, and posted a photo of the message.

I had coffee with a guy yesterday. When he went to the bathroom, the gay guy sitting behind me passed me this note pic.twitter.com/LgIVsrvlwx
— H.S. (@H.S.) 1629043780

The note read:

"Too many red flags. Run. Be safe, girl."

@Hadia_S/Twitter

People wanted to know more details about the vibe the quiet ally had picked up on.

One user asked:

"I can't help but wonder how bright red those flags were for a complete stranger notice AND write a warning note. Big Yikes."

Hadia responded:

"As bright as my red nails."

As bright as my red nails
— H.S. (@H.S.) 1629061190

Hadia admitted her date wasn't "THAT bad" but she did mention how the note opened her eyes more to the situation.

It honestly wasn\u2019t THAT bad\u2026.until after he came out the bathroom. Everything he said after the note was a major red flag
— H.S. (@H.S.) 1629052467

People wanted to know if she abruptly aborted the date.

did you listen? cause if anyone knows men better, it\u2019s GAY MEN
— Straight Men Pisser Offer \ud83d\ude18\ud83c\udf19\u2728 (@Straight Men Pisser Offer \ud83d\ude18\ud83c\udf19\u2728) 1629060129

Okay...if a gay man tells you to run. Girl u better get going
— Marie Michelle\ud83c\uddf1\ud83c\udde7\u2764\ufe0f\ud83c\uddf1\ud83c\udde7\ud83d\udd4a\ud83c\uddf8\ud83c\uddf3\ud83c\udde8\ud83c\uddf5\ud83c\uddf1\ud83c\uddf7 (@Marie Michelle\ud83c\uddf1\ud83c\udde7\u2764\ufe0f\ud83c\uddf1\ud83c\udde7\ud83d\udd4a\ud83c\uddf8\ud83c\uddf3\ud83c\udde8\ud83c\uddf5\ud83c\uddf1\ud83c\uddf7) 1629063327

I know he was DISGUSTED by that man. You better listen, sis!https://twitter.com/Hadia__S/status/1426939156643651585\u00a0\u2026
— Game of Throats \ud83c\uddec\ud83c\uddfe\ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\ud83c\udf08 (@Game of Throats \ud83c\uddec\ud83c\uddfe\ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\ud83c\udf08) 1629079760

We straight women are better because of all the gay men in this world.
— VacciCohenated \ud83c\uddee\ud83c\uddf1\u2721\ufe0f\ud83d\ude82 (@VacciCohenated \ud83c\uddee\ud83c\uddf1\u2721\ufe0f\ud83d\ude82) 1629062823

But instead of ditching the unsuspecting date, Hadia said she decided to "debate him" since she felt she "wasn't in danger."

@Hadia_S/Twitter

Hadia also mentioned she would've picked up on the "red flags" eventually, with or without the stranger's note.

However, she added the note "was greatly appreciated and added some laughs to my night."

She also clarified there would be no second date.

There were a few other GLARING red flags that I won\u2019t mention, but don\u2019t worry, I would have recognized them with or without the note. But the note was greatly appreciated and added some laughs to my night. There won\u2019t be a second date
— H.S. (@H.S.) 1629128685

Users continued weighing in with their observations.

I would have stayed for the debate though. Maybe even have a few head nods in solidarity if I agreed with your points. . But seriously, I always say politics, religion and popular-culture should be discussed last. It can be such a downer.
— Tony Bartholomew (@Tony Bartholomew) 1629128680

He was listening to their conversation with this face expressionpic.twitter.com/V0G22GVp7R
— Voldemort (@Voldemort) 1629062569

I\u2019m not saying believe him sis but.....BELIEVE HIM SISpic.twitter.com/ZrktQlXPqL
— ny. (@ny.) 1629067432

You can trust Mr. Gay's advice because he was alarmed enough to care for you personally for your safety.\nYou can also trust his advice because he didn't have any motivation to get into your pants.\nUnless those pants happened to have a gay flair to them.pic.twitter.com/bggCZX6nTx
— Mr Good Cat (@Mr Good Cat) 1629078720

Take that advice and run girl. Men who have many red flags usually don\u2019t change or rarely change. Whether the male that told you that is gay, Bisexual, straight or whatever and they warn you about a male. Take that advice.
— Allison M. Hietala \ud83d\udcda\ud83e\udddb\ud83c\udffb\u200d\u2640\ufe0f (@Allison M. Hietala \ud83d\udcda\ud83e\udddb\ud83c\udffb\u200d\u2640\ufe0f) 1629083996

That's a kind, kind stranger. Him being gay is a little extraneous, but I guess it made him able to recognize the red flags the dude you were out with was dropping. I'm glad he passed you that note, though! Saves you time and energy invested into a crappy relationship!
— Krista Abels, RP (@Krista Abels, RP) 1629065473

I always say trust your gut but if you don't then trust the gays!
— Andr\u00e9a Frost (@Andr\u00e9a Frost) 1629066146

Hey, he\u2019s protecting women. Love to see it
— shauna (@shauna) 1629061192

Apparently, strangers recognizing a questionable dating situation and letting it be known is a thing.

I once was on a date with a man when a waitress turned her face to me and silently but pointedly mouthed the word \u201cno.\u201d I wasn\u2019t sure what was happening. She turned out to be a sage.
— Cynthia Brumfield (@Cynthia Brumfield) 1629064475

A few years ago, a woman sitting next to me in a Philly bar did this for me. She was right.https://twitter.com/hadia__s/status/1426939156643651585\u00a0\u2026
— G O L D I E. (@G O L D I E.) 1629076214

People couldn't help but comment on the CVS receipt on which the message was scribbled.

Those 5 ft CVS receipts come in handy occasionallyhttps://twitter.com/hadia__s/status/1426939156643651585\u00a0\u2026
— Sad\u00e9 Lindsay (@Sad\u00e9 Lindsay) 1629072541

He gave up a CVS receipt to save you.\n\nNot only did he risk his personal business exposed, he gave up thousands in coupons. \n\nHeed his words.
— All Wise Dog (@All Wise Dog) 1629061546

Hadia later said her only regret was not exchanging numbers with the helpful stranger so that she could "compare notes."

I was just telling my friend how upset I am for not exchanging numbers to compare notes...lmao
— H.S. (@H.S.) 1629058874

People often say we should mind our own business.

While that axiom should apply in many situations, looking out for a woman's safety could be the one good exception.

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