Blood may be thicker than water, but friendship is thicker than---a wedding dress?
Or is it?
Earlier this month on Reddit, one user came forward to ask for advice after her friend "stole" her wedding dress.
Here's her full story:
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Reddit user SoDoneLolllllll shared that the two friends had discussed their wedding plans. Their big days were only a few months apart.
The bride-in-question showed her friend a picture of her dream wedding dress that she intended to go to the store and buy.
A few weeks later, the bride-to-be received a text message from her friend, which included a picture of her friend in a wedding dress—the very same dress she'd shown to her during their last visit.
The Reddit user wrote:
"Low and behold, a couple weeks later she texts me a picture of her wearing the dress at a store, saying that she knows it's my dream dress, but she loved it when she saw it and put it on and knew it was her dress. And she said she figured it'd be okay since I hadn't even tried it on yet, but she KNEW I was planning on trying it on, KNEW it was my dream dress, and KNEW I was going to buy it. She's now asking me to find a different dress so she can wear it. I don't know what to do, I'm so upset." -
-u/SoDoneLolllllll
For those of us who watch Friends, this is so reminiscent of "The One With the Cheap Wedding Dress," when a random woman barters Monica Geller's band-of-choice for the wedding dress of her dreams (that was on sale to boot!).
The bummer here, though, is that this is her friend, not a stranger, and her friend is offering nothing in exchange.
The question going forward, of course, is how this bride should proceed. She's asked fellow Reddit users if she's being petty and if she should continue to pursue her dress or to let it go.
The bride-to-be has received a fairly resounding YES across Reddit to go after her dream dress. After all, she and her friend are starring in separate weddings, multiple months apart—what's a little repetition going to hurt?
"Have you tried it on yet? You may not like it as much as you think. But if you do, buy it. She definitely can't tell you not to wear it, that's ridiculous."
--momo223694
"If it were me, I would still get the dress as it's a dress that is absolutely loved. Though your friend will wear the same dress, so what? Obviously you guys both have the same great taste and will each look spendid in it either way."
--MagpieD333
"Get the dress! Even if there are a ton of mutual people at your weddings no one is going to notice unless they are days apart and even then I bet they wouldn't notice. Both of you are going to have different hair, makeup, jewelry, etc."
--ginat420
"Try it on, but also try on others. If you are still in love with YOUR dress, and it truly is the one for you—buy it! Your friend did this to herself. Be nice about it, and just laugh it off, but don't give an inch if she whines about you getting the dress after she'd bought it. Joke and say, "Oh you're welcome! We both have great taste!"
Even 1 year from now—no one else will care or remember. Pick different hair, different colors, and don't worry about other people on your special day. And 5 years from now, you'll be looking back on your own photos, not at hers!"
--Amplitude
Sounds like the bride-to-be has a big decision to make!
It seems like most would suggest that she say "yes" to the dress and move on to plan the rest of the wedding.
No matter how the friend takes it, they could both have a wonderful wedding to look back on.
The Anne Hathaway and Kate Hudson film Bride Wars, available here, tells a story of dueling brides.
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