Having a best friend doesn't always mean we see eye to eye with them.
Indeed, every now and again we find ourselves having a possibly fundamental difference with them.
Sometimes, we can let these differences and disagreements go with a deep breath, other times, letting things slide isn't so easy.
In the most extreme cases, it could even lead to the first person we call when we're feeling down being cut from our life completely.
Redditor No_Dependent4663 was curious to hear from people who cut ties with their best friend, and what led them to do it, asking:
"People who fell out with their best/close friend, what killed it?"
Wasn't There When They Needed Them...
"Friends for 20 years."
"Helped her with rides, money, cloths ect."
"The first time I asked her for anything was after my husband had brain surgery and needed meds the local pharmacy didn't have."
"I couldn't leave him alone and could not take him with me so I asked her to watch him for an hour."
"She said no she wanted to go to the store with her bf."
"I never talked to her again."
"And thank goodness she didn't have the balls to show up to my husband's funeral."- softshoulder313
Ignoring The Warnings...
"Well it ended but was repaired."
"She got into a relationship with a walking red flag, and I told her as much."
"Things kept getting worse with him until I wasn’t able to watch it anymore."
"Then he convinced her that I was the toxic one and trying to control her so she didn’t want to be friends anymore."
"I said I respected her decision to choose him over me, but please don’t delete my number and to call me when it came time to run."
"She did and she’s out, learned from it, and we’re friends again."- Successful-Snow-562
...Goes Both Ways
"She warned me about my fiancé at the time, now ex-wife, and I didn't listen to her."
"My fiancé didn't like that and told me to pick her or my friend."
"I picked my fiancé and then she eventually cheated on me multiple times including while we had an infant at home."
"Never been more wrong in my life."- thegodfaubel
Ink On Their Face...
"I worked with them."
"They were very lazy and constantly started drama between myself and our coworkers."
"Lost pretty much all the respect I had for them."- AmericanTitan07
Who Knows?
"Nothing at all, and that is the saddest part."
"No big fight, no disagreement, no nothing."
"One day they met their now spouse and suddenly that was it."
"Since then radio silence."- Showfina
"I have no idea, but she stopped responding to texts or reaching out."- wei-ohara
Sensing A Spouse/Partner Theme...
"Best friends for 12 years."
"She was a complete bridezilla."
'Long story short, I was maid of honor and was expected to pay for multiple showers, ended up paying for part of her dress, and was asked to plan/pay for the entire bachelorette trip."
"I was in the process of building a house so I said no to the parties and trip (paying not planning/attending) and was swiftly booted from the wedding."
" Funny part was, the guy had been cheating on her and she knew and told me she was gonna leave him."
"She didn’t."
"She cheated on him back."
"He found out while I was with them, they broke up."
"Couple weeks later I got a call they were engaged."
"So bizarre."- accomplishedswan44
Were They Ever A Friend?
"Realizing that he was a shit friend who saw me as lesser than him, and he used that as justification to try and completely control my life."- yeetgodmcnechass
Lack Of Quid Pro Quo
"I cared more about the relationship than she did."
"I’m not gonna beg anyone to be my friend."- Superkittymeowmeow
Making Life A Competition
"My son was delayed."
"Hers was not."
"Her son was roughly a year younger and there were constant snide comments about how much sooner her son hit milestones than mine did."
"I gave her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she didn't mean it the way it came across and I was just touchy."
"And then she called my 2 year old stupid because he was mostly nonverbal."
"She got told to f*ck off."- TransportationOk4914
Absence Did Not Make The Heart Grow Fonder...
"They moved and stopped putting any effort into the relationship whatsoever."
"I offered to go there, I offered to fly them here (they hadn’t secured work yet) and they never made time."
"They never reached out."
"When I finally wrote and said it seemed apparent they’d lost interest in the relationship and I respected that but needed to move on rather than wait indefinitely, they refused to acknowledge anything had changed, and told me I sounded crazy."
"I asked why I hadn’t heard from them or seen them in a year and a half."
"No response."
"Reality is subjective, as they say."- testcase_sincere
Couldn't Meet Their Standards...
"She literally turned into her mother, only caring about appearances."
"At 23."
"I couldn’t take the judgment anymore."- Obi1NotWan
Wanted To Be More Than Friends
"We were best friends in high school."
"I moved in with him in 2015 because I needed a place to stay, and his father offered to let me rent out a spare bedroom for super cheap."
"Within five months, my friend made a romantic/sexual pass at me."
"I was not interested."
"I left that night and have never looked back."- allycatraz
They say to err is human, to forgive is divine.
But sometimes, the only way to forgive someone who hurt or betrayed you more than you thought was possible, is to let go, and move on.
@sama/X
