Always be in control of what you want out of life.
However, if your partner is part of the financial future you hope to share together, maybe a quick talk is in order. And if your partner is already doing an OnlyFans, maybe tell them how you feel if you've been having second thoughts. There's always a chance to land on the same page.
All of this is easier said than done, and we don't know what any of us would actually do if our partners came to us and said they wanted to start an OF.
Reddit user, Magnetar190, wanted to get the real scoop before you hit 'Subscribe' before they asked:
"Your partner starts an onlyfans, how do you react?"
It doesn't have to be a serious convo. Maybe lighten it up?
We're All A Little Busy
"Pleased that I'll finally get to see her naked once in a while."
stumanuke
"Hopefully she gives you a discount."
squiggly_poop
A Jurassic Erection
"Photo-bomb them in one of those inflatable T-Rex costumes with a giant inflatable dick sewn onto it"
hanotak
Who's to say that you both can't share in the benefits either of you would receive for starting an OnlyFans? What's yours is mine and mine is yours, after all.
Deductions, Deductions, Deducitons
"Start writing off the internet bill as a business expense"
htotheinzel
"Hold on could you actually do that?"
dontpissmeoffplsnthx
"Yep. I do. Cell phone too. Also square footage of our home office spaces, mortgage interest, and a portion of utilities."
4DrivingWhileBlack
"you have to have a designated space of your dwelling that's a legitimate office space. The dimensions of that room compared to the dimensions of the house determine what percentage of business expense you can take."
gil_ga_mesh
Share In The Wealth
"Demand that he start taking foot pics since male feet are high demand 👀 market is covered in women's feet. Post those hobbit toes baby."
The_Ivy_Hawke
"Whaaat!? So I went about this the wrong way. I should have asked my husband to make an OF of his feet instead of mine."
state_of_what
Don't Undersell Yourself
"Review his pricing to make sure he’s getting what I know he’s worth"
HappyGiraffe
It might be hard, it might lead to an answer you might not like, and it might end disastrously, but you owe it to both of you to have this talk.
Speak Up
"I’m pretty sure a good amount of people would be alright with it if the partner in question first discussed it with their significant other. Starting an OF and not even letting your S/O know about it might rub me the wrong way personally."
Windebieste_Ultima
What's The Purpose Of Why You're Asking?
"I don't want to assume anything but I can't help but feel that if you were as completely and totally fine with your (OP's) partner starting an OF, you wouldn't be on here asking this question. Kinda comes across as if you're trying to convince yourself you’re okay with it when you actually aren't."
Helena_Markos
And It's Okay To Not Be Okay With It. Just Talk About It.
"Act like it's cool and let it slowly eat away at me until everything falls apart, then drink hard for a month."
nun0
"I did this, but instead of OF she started stripping and instead of a month I drank heavy for a year and a half."
"Bad times. Better now though."
Lonelobo21
Seriously, Talk
"If she just up and started one without talking to me about it I'd end the relationship. If that's what she wants to do with her life / body that's fine, but if we're in a relationship I have the right to know because that's not a what I'm looking for in a partner."
[usernamedeleted]
"This is the healthiest answer. A solid relationship is based on trust and honesty. If you have to hide things from your partner to make the relationship work, you’re just sitting on a time bomb. That doesn’t mean you need to be brutally honest with your partner, it also doesn’t mean you have to share every single thought in your head with them, but you have to be able to talk to them openly about anything without fear of judgement. And if they’re a good partner, they will listen and be honest with you about anything too."
LegendaryOutlaw
Honesty, And For The Love Of Your Love, TALK
"Matching values is important in a relationship. Your question is directed to "me" then I'll answer from my perspective: exclusivity is one of my values and I'm confident that money could be earned in another way that doesn't violate that exclusivity. Add to that I won't be comfortable knowing it's out there forever in mass numbers, and that applies to myself as much as my partner."
"But that's just what I hold as a value and I'm claiming ZERO points on it being right or wrong. The only thing that matters is that you're honest with yourselves and each other about whether your values match or not. Key word: honest."
Inviz57
Trust each other. You entered into a relationship for a reason. Let that be the guide to finding the solution.
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