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Dating Expert Divides TikTok With HIs Advice For Men About Approaching A Group Of Women

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TikToker @defundsimping pointed out how you should never 'single out' a woman who is part of a group—but his strategy didn't seem completely universal for viewers.

A dating expert on TikTok has gone viral for his advice on how men should approach a group of women, but viewers of the video don't completely agree with his imparted wisdom.

Creator @defundsimping, whose website offers the "cure" for simping, explained that singling out a potential interest who is with a group of her friends is the wrong way to go about securing a chance for some one-on-one time.


In his TikTok that has been viewed more than 3 million times, he shared:

“So when you’re approaching a group of girls there’s one thing you got to take note of: don’t single the one you want out."

He continued:

“So instead of walking up to, I don’t know, this girl and saying, ‘Hey, what’s up.’ You are now isolating her from the group. And the whole point of approaching a group is trying to make the whole group like you. "
"Now, can you just single out a girl if you want to? Hell yeah. But it’s always best to approach the whole group."

The TikToker then invited viewers to "walk through the script."

“I’ll usually say, ‘Hey, you guys having a good night so far?’ That’s my usual go-to, and it works."
"Now, usually the not-so-attractive one is the one that’s gonna lead the interaction with you ‘cause the bad b*tch is usually gonna stay quiet. Which is the one you want."
"Now, the girl that’s not the most attractive will say, ‘Our night’s good, how is yours?’ Then I’ll say something along the lines of, ‘Oh you know, just crashing a ladies’ night.’"
"Usually that gets them all to laugh.”

He continued that he chitchats with the group for a bit.

“Is this bar your favorite to go to?”

When they "usually" say it isn't he said he follows up:

“Which bar is your favorite to go to?”
“Then they start naming places. This girl will say one bar, and then this girl will say another bar, then you guys start vibing and talking about different locations you guys like to both go to."
"Then you cut to the chase.”

Okay, here we go.

“I usually say something like this: ‘OK, do you guys know why I came over here?'”
“And they’ll be like, ‘No why’d you come over here?’"
"I’ll say, ‘Is she single?'”

He claimed that this technique works “every single time."

“That’s because if you can get the group to like you, they will put you in front of their top girl, every time."
“Especially if they know you’re her type.”

You can watch the TikTok below.

WARNING: NSFW language

@defundsimping

#greenscreen how to approach a group of girls #bargame #clubgame #approaching

Although @defundsimping alleged he is batting a thousand, viewers weren't too convinced his technique works for everyone.

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And others shared their own questionable suggestions.

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Some, however, were absolutely sold.

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We're curious to hear from women how effective this approach is, but for now I guess we have to take the word of the TikTok expert that it never fails.

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