Taking compliments isn't my strong suit. A lot of introverts struggle with this.
However there are some things I prefer to be complimented on than others.
I'd rather be called efficient or helpful or humorous over anything related to my appearance.
Reddit user disapointedgroundhog asked:
"Women of Reddit, what’s one compliment you wish you heard more?"
The Young'uns
"'Nice/cool outfit' from kids."
~ lamericana
"My wife is a high-school teacher and some girls said to her they 'love your 'fit today Miss H'."
"She said she almost blushed to death."
~ HardGayMan
Safe Space
"That he feels the most peace when he’s with me."
~ Manifestingbch19
"As a guy who has said this to a woman, it’s the highest form of compliment from me."
~ useless_reaper
From The Mouths Of Babes
"I always BEAM whenever a kid compliments me on literally anything, especially since they’re brutally honest and don’t give f*cks."
~ rosequartz_vag
Love
"One of the first things my boyfriend ever said to me was 'I love how your face lights up when you smile'. I absolutely SWOONED."
"Other things he said that made me fall even harder were 'you're the highlight of my day every day', 'I don't want to picture a world without you' and even just, 'you're the most amazing person I've ever met'."
"So glad I'm marrying him this year."
~ gIow1ng
Pride
"Honestly, it’s not a compliment about my appearance."
"I wish people told me they were proud of me more."
~ audrey_lynn01
Perspective
"'I love the way you look at things', 'I love the way your mind works'—extrapolate further from there."
~ carla-mia
Anything, Really
"My ex complimented my waist and wrists on separate occasions and I still remember those compliments."
"Honestly, I love any compliment."
~ mayaballzitch
Strength
"Acknowledgement of how strong I am, physically and mentally."
~ Accomplished_Basil29
I Feel Pretty
"In my entire life I have only been told twice that I was beautiful."
"I would like to have heard that more often."
"I'm not ugly, I'm kind of cute, but I'm not drop-dead gorgeous either."
~ butter00pecan
No Strings
"It's really nice to get a compliment from a man who isn't expecting anything in return."
"A genuine compliment is the best."
~ Ok_Acanthisitta5022
Contributions
"Genuine appreciation for what I contribute to any relationship."
"I feel like the compliments I do receive fall into the appearance category or thanking me for completing tasks.
"I don’t know how to explain this without being perceived negatively, but I would love to be noticed for more than my appearance or checking chores off a list."
"I don’t want to feel like I’m just a 'pretty maid'."
~ Sweet-Try-8521
Not Just A Pretty Face
"I like compliments about who I am or what I’ve done instead of what I look like."
"I love when someone compliments something specific about my personality or accomplishments."
~ Winstonisapuppy
Thoughts
"Compliment what I have to say, not how I look saying it."
"'That's a really good point, I've never thought of that before. You must really know your stuff' would make me feel 10,000x better than 'you're pretty'."
~ ratpancake
Laughable
"'You’re funny'."
~ ismwall
"Genuinely if someone praises my sense of humour it actually brightens my whole day."
~ FinalGirl678
"Yeah, this is #1 for me too."
"It feels like a much higher compliment than being told I'm pretty or even smart."
~ sedimentary-j
Just A Smile
"A man smiled at me about a year ago. He was just getting out of his car and I was a pedestrian."
"I was walking along pushing my stroller."
"Never received such a warm, genuine smile before my entire life."
"No flirtatiousness to it, no 'you're a customer so I have to', it was just wholesome."
~ PumpkinPieIsGreat
It seems like most women have gotten compliments on their appearance, but rarely on their abilities.
Something to think about...
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