Social dating apps can be exciting when you're starting a clean slate and you have opportunities to meet interesting people who can potentially become your soul mate.
Unfortunately, there are plenty of people who make navigating the virtual dating world a very discouraging experience.
Writer Natalia Antonova interacted with a Bumble user who tracked her down on another social media app after she ignored him, and she had the perfect response to his complaint.
Upon the anniversary of her encounter with the aggressive user, Antonova shared screenshots of her conversation and captioned it with:
"Happy anniversary to this great moment in incel history."
Happy anniversary to this great moment in incel historypic.twitter.com/DPPWCkALjO— Natalia Antonova (@Natalia Antonova) 1621358550
The back and forth started with him confessing he swiped right on her on Bumble indicating he had shown interest.
Apparently, he thought she was obligated to respond to him, and when she didn't, he admitted to searching for her on the internet and finding her on Instagram. There, he sent her a DM (direct message), which she accepted.
"I wondered if you'd respond if I found you on Instagram," he said, adding, "I'm not offended, just think that it's a little shallow of you."
Taken aback by the insult, Antonova responded with, "excuse me?" to which the guy wrote:
"You harshly judged my Bumble profile, but the second you saw that I'm funny and I can cook, you let me talk to you."
Reeling from the accusation, Antonova wrote:
"Harshly judged? I honestly don't remember ever coming across you on Bumble. So whatever it is you've just assumed, it's weird and wrong."
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He continued:
"Is this your way of implying that you get so many matches on Bumble that you don't remember me? Scandalous!"
Antonova clarified she did get "plenty of Bumble matches" but questioned why her Bumble activity qualified as being "scandalous," adding, "Maybe if I was a nun."
He tried guilt-tripping her.
"Way to make a guy feel good [about] himself."
But she was not having it and imparted a tip about dating women.
"It's not my job to flatter you. Especially after you called me shallow. Piece of advice: Acting insecure and rudely demanding validation is not how you get girls."
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As far as Twitter was concerned, she was winning.
Why do some men do this? Get rejected so insult you Like two seconds ago you were flirting with me, pick a personality man jheeeze. Well played tho Queen— Shelley Roman (@Shelley Roman) 1621413880
Her responses are just https://twitter.com/NataliaAntonova/status/1394704964082077698\u00a0\u2026— esme (@esme) 1621461057
AHAHAHAHAHAHA \n\nThere really is no coming back from this https://twitter.com/NataliaAntonova/status/1394704964082077698\u00a0\u2026pic.twitter.com/G3x8ysXE4A— little miss merleau-ponty (@little miss merleau-ponty) 1621507138
Guys are so quick to throw out the \u201caging single mom\u201d comment while begging to be daddy— bonafide Aquemini (@bonafide Aquemini) 1621391159
This actually insane. People are insane. Being single is hard, but my god if this is the alternative I\u2019ll die celibate and alone.https://twitter.com/nataliaantonova/status/1394704964082077698\u00a0\u2026— Chicken Thicclet \ud83d\udc14 (@Chicken Thicclet \ud83d\udc14) 1621495400
People commiserated with Antonova by sharing their own online dating experiences.
It\u2019s wild how often this happens! I have received facebook and Instagram messages from people I had no recollection of matching with, and they are mad. Fav: the ones who say I have to go out with them because we share a religion.— Alicia Katz (@Alicia Katz) 1621387790
this reminds me of the guy that called me a fat, psychotic whore and asked me a week later if he wanted to come over for dinner as an \u201capology\u201dhttps://twitter.com/NataliaAntonova/status/1394704964082077698\u00a0\u2026— Christopher Dorner \ud83e\udd8b (@Christopher Dorner \ud83e\udd8b) 1621478144
The number of times I have been told I was actually ugly after rejecting a guy is enormous! I\u2019m like so we should be happy then right?— Krissy (@Krissy) 1621445907
And others had plenty to say about Mr. Offended.
When you\u2019re so insecure you engineer a way to validate your resentment.— AstraVaxxed (@AstraVaxxed) 1621360926
It's so great that cis straight dudes are so measured and less prone to emotional outbursts than women are so they can be in charge of everything.— taylor is le tired (@taylor is le tired) 1621389951
Never talk to a guy with opinions on soup. Just let them stew.— Mistress Mercer \ud83d\udddd\ufe0f FemDom & Feminization \u26a7\ufe0f (@Mistress Mercer \ud83d\udddd\ufe0f FemDom & Feminization \u26a7\ufe0f) 1621405948
He is demented. Or as my 14 year old son would say, "So cringe."— Allison Burnett (@Allison Burnett) 1621359262
This is the kind of guy whose dating profile has two dimly lit selfies of him scowling in his room and wonders why no one will match— Alicia Kraft (@Alicia Kraft) 1621373294
Antonova received over 116K likes and was retweeted over 8K times since posting last Tuesday.
Gentlemen, take note—stalking a woman and belittling her is not how you score a date.
Or self-respect.