First impressions on a first date are very telling.
While it may be unfair to make a quick decision based on appearances or circumstances, it's always the right thing to do to have an open mind when going on a date.
However, sometimes the words that come out of a potential love interest's mouth can jeopardize the outcome of an anticipated rendezvous.
Curious to hear examples of regretful dating moments, Redditor velcroshellshell asked:
"What is something they said on a first date that immediately prevented a second?"
The audacity of some people!
Permanent Detour
"I'm posting everything we say on Instagram. And I'm getting suggestions on what to ask you from my followers".
"Went 'to the toilet' and left."
– _TLDR_Swinton
“She said she’s going to the toilet chat!”
…
“Ahh she never came back chat :(“
– wadlwadlus
Just Text Please
“Don’t call me. My husband checks my phone”
– GrimeyScorpioDuffman
"Copy that, friend. I'll do you one better and never contact you ever again."
– lilachiccups
Too Much Information
"I had a dude do nothing but monologue about his ex the entire date. He kept repeating the same 'but I’m totally over her' line. It got so bad he even started showing me pictures and her social media (showing me that she was dating someone new now)"
"I kinda just realized this dude needed someone to talk to in that moment and I really had nothing better going on so f'k it, speak your truth man."
"The date was 2.5h long."
– SinfullySinless
Hard To Please
"'I cycle through my friend groups about once every three weeks when they get boring.' Ok. Cool. So you’ll bring in a new filly when you’re bored of me."
– Odd-Secret-8343
Tall Complaint
" As I exited my car in the parking lot to meet up for dinner: 'OMG! YOU LIED!!! YOU SAID YOU WERE 5’8”!!!! YOU ARE AT LEAST 5’10 IN HEELS! DO YOU NOT SEE HOW EMBARRASSING THIS IS FOR ME?????' I immediately got back in my car and drove away…"
"We hadn’t even greeted each other yet. He just angrily screamed this at me from 20 feet away… He is 5’10. I had no problem with him being 5’10, but apparently he does? It was a weird interaction."
– feeen1ks
Intelligence Envy
"He told me he didn’t feel comfortable that I was pursuing a doctorate because he didn’t like women who thought they were smarter than he was."
– No_Reason8645
"What a moron. A woman tells me that she's got a higher education or is pursuing one and it's like... Wow. I'm glad for them and they go up a few notches in my mind."
– Ohnoherewego13
These hinted at unpleasant things to come.
Too Fancy
"She called her ex boyfriend 'cheap' because he would only take her out to eat 2-3 times per week and cooked the other days."
– itsmeazp
"Lol. The first time a now-ex of mine met my family, she complained to my sisters about how upset she was about the cheap Christmas gifts I got her."
"Like, literally, thirty seconds after meeting them, as soon as I left the room, she was like: 'I'm so upset at quebecivre right now. Do you know what he got me for Christmas?'"
"My sister told me later that my whole family, from that moment on, was hoping we'd break up soon. We did."
– quebecivre
The Dance Judge
"We had a great time at bar 1 and proceeded to bar 2. Immediately arriving at bar 2 music was playing and people were dancing. She started making fun of a woman just dancing enjoying herself."
"She even got other peoples attention around us and pointed at the dancing lady. I skipped out when she wasn’t looking."
– anon
"So many people seems to find making fun of strangers to be a great source of pleasure. Weird."
– squirrel_gnosis
Mama's Boy
"I have to live with my Mom because all three of my baby mama's insist that I pay child support".
"NopeNopeNopeNopeNope!"
"ETA: I think I need to add that, he wasn't mentioning it, he was COMPLAINING about it. Like 'if these women didn't insist on child support, I would be able to move out' and 'I have to put dinner on my credit card because I'm always broke because I have to pay child support'...I paid for my own meal, BTW."
"Which I don't mind doing, I always insist on the first date so they don't think I 'owe' them something in return, but he had to out his $12 Denny's meal (yes, he insisted on Denny's) on a credit card."
– TaraDactyl1978
Ableist Much?
"For context, I have cerebral palsy. I am well-adjusted so it's not always obvious but I needed tons of OT and PT growing up, and I currently have a hard time with balance, spatial perception, and muscle control."
"I landed a date with this very hot girl; ticked off all the boxes I liked and she was very sweet to boot. By all accounts the date was going perfectly. We were both having a great time, we held hands briefly, and the time seemed to fly by."
"Towards the end though we decided to take a subway to a bar I really liked across town and she saw a sign that stated seated passengers would need to surrender their seats to elders and/or disabled people who need them."
"She blatantly said that she hates disabled people getting accommodations, said disabled people are drains on society, and expressed her view that if someone is disabled enough to need a special parking spot or a seat then they should commit themselves to 'homes'."
"Her tone did a 180 and I couldn't believe it, she became like a different person for a minute."
"I finished the date but in my head I realized that no amount of external sexiness could make up for internal nastiness. An hour-ish after I got home she texted me saying she had a wonderful time and asked me on a second date, and I apologized and said no, not interested."
"She asked why and I told her that I was in fact a disabled person and was hurt by her comments on the subway, and she never responded. One of my friends was annoyed that I turned down such a hot girl, until I explained all of what happened. That was that."
– TheshizAlt
Definitely An Ableist
"I don't want to be in a relationship with a cripple".
"I wear an ankle support which you would never know unless I showed you. I don't wear shorts as I'm a bit insecure about it. The only reason she found out was I loosened it off while we were sitting at the table as having it tightened up for long periods of time makes my ankle ache."
– Ravo93
Interesting how the tone of a conversation can change very easily when meeting in person.
Romantic messages can be deceiving as participants have time to win people's affections.
Good luck when you take your online dating to the next level.
