People Break Down The Exact Moment They Fell Out Of Love With Someone

Nothing Doing

"that no matter what i did, how much i helped, how much i tried to be there for them, i was a second option and never a priority, never reciprocated"

"the feelings are still there, just slowly withering away as i face reality day by day"

"EDIT: for all who support and are in the same boat, hopefully time will help and i wish you all the best in your endeavours ^^"

– FstMario

That'll Do It

"When i found she was madly in love with my best friend"

– Own-Salt5457

"Better off alone. F*ck that noise."

– Deleted User

A Special Kind Of Laziness

"Lack of effort. In all areas, not just the relationship directly. Like refusing to clean the bathrooms even though that was one of "his" chores. It was always "I'll get to it when I get to it.""

"One final "big" moment I was late from work one day and called asking him to start dinner (literally pre-heat the oven and toss the chicken wings in). He argued on the phone and instead of doing that went out to the restaurant nearby for their wing night and ate there. Didn't bring me anything back either."

"At the time I was teaching high school full time, directing a school show, and finishing my Master's thesis. I had no time for his sh*t. Driving to school one morning I was thinking about the dedication page of my thesis and I realized I didn't want to put his name on my thank yous because I realized this relationship wasn't going to last."

– somethingclever1712

Crimes and MegaDemeanors

"She stole my car."

– otcconan

"I once had an ex steal my identity"

– idrownedmyfish77

When Someone Tells You Who They Are...

"Didn't kill my feelings, but did make me nuts and do/say things out of character because of reactive abuse. I don't lose feelings easily."

"Word of advice - if someone tells you they're a narcissist, believe them. You'll save yourself a lot of wasted time and heartache."

– 8 days ago

"Oh boy. Seconded on the word of advice. They won’t always say it outright. They will talk about how broken they are, have every sob story practiced to a T, and call their parent/parents narcissists. That’s who they learned it from."

"Additional word of advice: If someone’s actions don’t match words, they are the problem, not you, no matter how they try to spin it."

– whattodo1216

Yikes!

"He tells me a story about his ex and a dog, and how he “took care of that” by driving the dog out to nowhere and leaving him."

– billygoat2017

"I guess that means it’s time to “take care of ‘him.'"

– Arusht

High, High Horse

"This is gonna sound really weird. He became a classist."

"When we met, he had a decent job, he was making twice my salary. He was very generous, kind, and loving. Never looked down on me for making less than him."

"Over the course of 10 years, he job hopped a couple times. I stayed at the same job and slowly worked my way up the ladder. Still not making close to what he was."

"Then he got a fabulous job that throws money at him constantly. He started making quarterly bonuses equal to my yearly salary! I was happy for him. He worked his @ss off. Basically 13 to 15 hour days for months with no time off."

"The new job cut deeply into our time together. He was always working, taking business trips out of state at a moment's notice. Still, I was happy for him because he really loved the job."

"I moved to a new apartment without roommates. It was small but I was so excited to finally have a place completely to myself. Then he comes to visit and proceeds to sh*t all over my new place."

"Sure, the decor was stuck in the 90s but who cares? It was a safe area with controlled access close to my job and very quiet."

"Immediately he starts talking sh*t about my new neighborhood. "Are you sure it's safe?" "Do people do drugs here? It looks like a place where people do drugs."

"(A friend had lived at this complex and told me how great it was. Affordable, quiet, safe neighborhood, etc)"

"I thought maybe he was just being protective."

"Nope. He proceeded to joke about how small it was. Then he mentioned he was afraid his car would get stolen from the parking lot!!! Dude was driving a 2010 Jeep in 2018, not a freaking Rolls Royce."

"That was the one and only time he ever visited my apartment. We went to his place all the time, a fairly new rental home in an upscale neighborhood."

"Long story short, he's only gotten worse the more his salary increases. I can't handle it anymore! I came from abject poverty. I shouldn't take it personally when he dismisses things that are "not up to his standards". But maybe I'm not up to his standards anymore. I'm seeing him on Tuesday and I intend to break it off. It sucks! We've been together almost 15 years. I just can't be with someone who thinks they are better than everyone else."

– Tiny_Teach_5466

Completely Messed Up

"Insulting my body while I was pregnant with his child... specifically called me deformed and how repulsive my belly was"

– Adept_Network6455

"I may get some flak for saying this, but I hope you haven't let your child meet that man... Wish you and your child all the best for the future...."

– Ok-Drama-1474

Makes Me Cringe

"After 6.5 years together, house, pet; getting cheated on. Then forgiving him. Then us working on it. Then him saying, “no you’re feeling better, do you think I could talk to her again?” He picked himself and put himself in the bin just like that. Was kind of amazing."

– cryintomydiary

Nothing Worse Than This Kind Of Dad

"Found out he was a dead beat dad. He had 2 kids and never told me about them. He completely refused to pay any child support or be part of their lives. When we first got together, I told him kids were a deal breaker, so he never told me. Fast forward 1 year later, I come over and his baby momma is around, yelling at him."

"My dad went without paying his bills to pick us up every other weekend and drive 360 miles to spend time with us. It was the end for me."

– BullRidininBoobies

Misinformation

"Was giving me false hope that the relationship was still going strong by telling everyone else that she was over me and the relationship but never informing me. On top of that, she emotionally cheated on me with my roommate(he's no longer my roommate btw). Although my friends are helping me recover from the incident, it still stings because it was my first relationship and she planned to end it months ago. During those seven months, I believed she loved me; now it seems like only two. Even though everyone told me not to blame myself, deep down I still feel that it was my fault or that I somehow contributed to the problem."

– GEEK427

Give And No Take

"She is not your girlfriend. She lets you do nasty stuff with her and you pay for expensive meals and give her money in return."

– ConsciousRadish6437

Definitely A Heart Problem

"We were together about 3 years, and I though we were "soulmates". She was so excited to be together, and told me that she had been waiting for a relationship "like ours" her whole life. We were young, but not overly so (late 20's-early 30's). Things started to take a turn about the end of year 2."

"She went from wanting to spend almost all her time with me to only wanting us to be together an hour or so a day. Our intimacy dried up almost completely, and our relationship was reduced to a few hours a week. I asked for months what was going on, and that if she wanted to break up just tell me."

"Finally, she told me that she found out that she was having heart problems, and had been seeing a specialist. I was horrified at this, and demanded to go to her next appointment so that I could understand what I needed to do to help the woman I loved get through this. She kept putting me off, telling me that "no, some people in my family don't like you, it would just cause problems." Not wanting to make her condition worse, I agreed to stay away."

"This went on for months. She would not call or come over to my place for a day or 2, then I would see her. I finally told her that this was really hard on me, and that I would have no way of knowing if she had been admitted to the hospital or even died. I told her to please not "go dark" for more than a day, because the not knowing was ripping me apart."

"One night it finally became too much. Her last words to me the day before were "Don't worry, babe, I love you so much and we will get through this". I then didn't hear from her for the next 24 hours. I bought some flowers, got a get well card, and decided that knowing she was ok was worth whatever slings and arrows I was going to suffer from her family."

"I knocked on her door, and after a second I heard her scream "GO AWAY I NEVER WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN." I was stunned, and then the door opened. Out she came, followed by a man I had never seen before. She was telling him that she "didn't know who I was." I soon found out that she had been seeing him for (guess what?) about a year, and had never told him about me."

"I knew at that moment the person I was so madly in love with didn't exist. I knew that this person was nothing but a liar, and almost immediately I found NOTHING attractive about her."

– Motsart_04

Never Looking Forward

"When I knew that she has nothing prepared for the near future. She only lives in the moment and never looks after, that, you can be like that if you are a senior high student, but as a college student and as a man going to face the society, you can never."

– EasymoneysnipperFTW

Didn't Know Him At All

"He love bombed me pretty hard but suffered from bipolar so I chalked it up to mania and new love excitement. Once I found out he was lying about his porn habits, his past relationships, and pretty much everything about him that I loved was made up. You can't love a ghost."

– Party-Ocelot-4461

Kindness Was Out The Window

"Being asked if I was "off my meds" every time he disagreed with me on anything, which was a daily burden. I refuse to put up with someone who's that comfortable mocking my mental illness."

– Lilith_28

Ouch!

"When he posted on Reddit that he didn't have feelings for me anymore, he just talks to me to be polite, and made it clear that I was a nuisance he no longer wanted to make time for."

"I realized I misunderstood who we are/were to each other. I pulled back, he moved on."

"His Reddit post was his indirect way of letting me know he didn't want me to play a meaningful role in his life anymore. Just had to accept it and get on with my own life."

– lilithisrisen

Double Ouch!

"I was a pizza delivery guy at the time. We had been seeing each other for a few months at that point. It was her birthday and I planned a surprise party. All her friends showed up. We all went out to eat (15 of us) and I paid for everything plus the tip. Night was winding down and I asked her to be my gf. She says “no offense but you deliver pizzas for a living”. Immediately turned off and we never spoke again."

– Automatic_Office_358

It never hurts any less to fall out of love with someone, but the important thing to remember is, it’s completely okay, and it will get better.