The people involved in relationships have their respective quirks.
Some may think their significant other's idiosyncracies are adorkable, while others are indifferent.
While many of these quirks are susceptible to ribbing, there are just some behaviors that are deemed so off-putting, it's not worth mentioning at all.
Curious to hear examples of this, Redditor Familiar_Stranger936 asked:
"What do you hate about your partner, but can’t tell them?"
These Redditors found their partners' tendencies were cringey.
Positively Annoying
"She posts motivational posters on Facebook. It cringes me the f out."
– kambinks
Off Pitch
"My wife took singing lessons as a kid. She is certain that she has a great singing voice. She does not. It’s so hard to be in the same house when she’s singing but I love her dearly and would never ask her to stop."
– stln3rd
Proper Pronunciation
"The way she pronounces the word 'hamburger' makes me die inside."
"ham BIRD gr"
– DrFridayTK
"Lady, Get It Together"
"She has a hard time cleaning up after herself."
"I work full time during the week, she works weekends. The house is a mess during the week and spotless during the weekend. Monday night, I come home and it's a mess again. Oof, lady. Get it together."
"And the way she drinks. Gulps everything like she out of air and the only way to get more is to suck it off the bottom of whatever vessel she's drinking out of. Food noises kill me and she knows it but the gulping is unconscious so I try not to let it bother me."
"Love her more than everything. She's my best friend in all ways. But those are the two."
– ArrdenGarden
These can be a huge turnoff.
Bagel Sounds
"The sound he makes when he eats bagels. Not everything, just bagels, and he eats bagels every morning for breakfast. It’s disgusting."
– sparklingjunkie
Unbridled Appetite
"That she sounds like a horse when she eats a bowl of cereal."
– demonj00
Bad Bedside Manners
"I wake up teetering on the edge of the bed, every f'king night. We have a king size bed and she is petite, I tell her but it doesn’t matter. Every. F'king. Night."
– 1980pzx
Some behavioral patterns can make a person resentful of the other.
Too Much Noise
"She watches YouTube/Tik Tok videos on her phone and refuses to use headphones/earbuds. I hate it."
– usspaceforce
Handling Constructive Criticism
"He’s really really bad at taking criticism. Really bad. And I can’t tell him this because feedback loop etc."
– StGir1
Pick Up The Pace
"She’s one of those people that walks too slow in the grocery store and stands there looking at sh*t forever trying to decide what to get not aware that 2 other people right behind her trying to grab what she’s in front of and go."
– BusinessFeeling7121
Sonic Assault
"His snoring. It's not something he can necessarily control but he snores SO loud that it disrupts my sleep."
– BeatnikWoman
Losing Sleep
"My wife snores like a train and it’s gotten worse over the years. I am a bit of a sensitive sleeper, and have a very tough time falling asleep. It takes her about 15 seconds to fall asleep. I used to start trying to sleep in our bed for a couple hours then go out to the couch for the remainder of the night. For many years I did that. About 3 years ago I just plain started sleeping on the couch. I know it bothers her that I’m not in the bed but i just need to sleep. I feel bad about it since she can’t totally help it but getting 3-4 hours of sleep a night for years just wasn’t cutting it."
– popedouglas320
Wishy-Washy
"How indecisive she can be. We've talked and she's doing better. But it is extremely exhausting to plan nearly every single date/event/thing we do."
– nagol93
Expectations
"That they expect an apology for every hurt feeling, but almost never take accountability or apologize for their own actions when they hurt other people."
– imav8n
Sometimes, significant others are forced to take inconvenient matters into their own hands.
Push Came To Shove
"I once pushed in my husband’s hemorrhoid while we were out of town so we could enjoy our vacation. There’s nothing I hate about him that I wouldn’t tell him after that."
"ETA: thanks for the awards! To answer a few questions: 1. He tried to do it himself and failed. 2. He had gone to the pharmacy and gotten Preparation H cream and gloves, so I didn’t go in bare-handed (I’m not an animal, guys). 3. An internal hemorrhoid can be pushed back in; an external one cannot. 4. I wrote that answer and went to sleep pretty soon after, and he hasn’t killed me as of this morning, but that may change once he’s seen the upvotes lol."
– skbiglia
Ending The Discussion
"Her family is too detail oriented about insignificant stuff. Like, I’ll have to explain what aisle I went down in the grocery store before I can keep explaining what happened to me while shopping. Or her parents go into excruciating detail about what they ordered for lunch at Wendy’s. For f'k sake I love her and her family to death but god I couldn’t care less about half the conversations they have."
"It sounds bad and shallow, but conversation with her extended family is even worse. I usually stick with 'not much, what’s new with you?' 'Oh wow that’s interesting' and walk away."
– Photographydudeman
While every case is different, people find that being open with each other–or even consult professional therapy–about the things that bother them that can potentially end a relationship can improve relationships.
But if your SO is an obnoxiously loud food-chewer, well, not bringing up something that can lead to hurt feelings may be the kinder thing to do, as long as you can stomach it.
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