Living with someone is quite a separate ordeal from dating them.
You may find when you cohabitate you take up a lot of space together. Your habits are seemingly designed to get on each others' nerves.
A woman's dishwasher loading technique, for example, has really frustrated her wife. Said wife decided to take the debate to Twitter.
But not everybody agreed it was a poor dishwasher technique.
Judge for yourself.
I married her before I ever saw her stack a dishwasher. I can’t take this anymore. https://t.co/BrDHGWkpX9— Lee Beattie (@Lee Beattie) 1629317747.0
@leebeattie I was mad at my wife about this, but now I can see things could be much worse. https://t.co/rQJBvzjAWb— Kathryn Martinez (@Kathryn Martinez) 1629425432.0
@leebeattie Reminds me of this classic that was sent to our entire company https://t.co/kvDpeRdkzy— Supporter 🏴☠️ (@Supporter 🏴☠️) 1629393498.0
@leebeattie I loathe dishwashers with a passion. So satisfying washing and putting away. Really don't see the point of the things!— Dr Jen Llywelyn 🏴 🇪🇺 🏴 (@Dr Jen Llywelyn 🏴 🇪🇺 🏴) 1629391020.0
@leebeattie Looks to me as though space is limited, which leads to imperfect stacking. I would suggest adopting a ‘… https://t.co/q4cl9JJ9X7— Mick (@Mick) 1629364539.0
Some people were absolutely horrified by the picture—with one person actually saying the image made her "physically sick."
Another person suggested that there is one person in every marriage who cannot load the dishwasher, so Lee, the woman who began the tweet, was most certainly not alone.
@leebeattie Dishwasher loading - in every marriage there’s one person who can, and one person who can’t, and if you… https://t.co/YAVx3FCHAN— Regan K (@Regan K) 1629474837.0
@leebeattie 😮Here are some dishwasher loading techniques that might help avoid an argument: https://t.co/AVAy57tzoS— Consumer Reports (@Consumer Reports) 1629395599.0
@leebeattie Every home needs a Dishwasher monitor. I am ours. God knows that they’d do without me.— MrsD (@MrsD) 1629481175.0
@leebeattie My husband does this. I used to think he was smart but … not so much now.— RowanWho (@RowanWho) 1629385975.0
@leebeattie As Jon Richardson once said, there are two ways to load a dishwasher. There's the right way and there's… https://t.co/EMUPDIBUPT— Matt (@Matt) 1629394135.0
Now there are some fair arguments to be considered here.
For example, what if our original poster, or OP's wife, didn't grow up with a dishwasher? Are we making fun of her for her economic disadvantage?
However, most people seem to think some people are just naturally bad at loading a dishwasher.
@leebeattie Oh g*d my daughter does it like this. They clearly need to share a place.— Georgie Agass (@Georgie Agass) 1629402702.0
@leebeattie This is how my wife’s brother loads his dishwasher. And everything is clean. Every. Damn. Time. And so… https://t.co/Fpbj0oP5Yc— Derryl Murphy (@Derryl Murphy) 1629475308.0
@leebeattie That’s not so much stacking as it is throwing the dishes at the dishwasher from across the room!— Kevin (@Kevin) 1629407816.0
@leebeattie But also… did it all come out clean?— Gabriella Bennett (@Gabriella Bennett) 1629324270.0
@leebeattie Years ago I shared a house with someone who stacked all the washed items in the draining rack all over… https://t.co/1yeMZQ3XJv— The Masked Knitter 🏴 Ⓥ 🕷️ (@The Masked Knitter 🏴 Ⓥ 🕷️) 1629388439.0
For those of you wondering what is wrong, dishwashers utilize water jets to remove food and particulates. If dishes are piled together, the dirty areas aren't directly exposed to the water jets.
However, some people were just never taught, like OP's wife. But as long as the dishes are getting clean, does it really matter anyway?
And that's the missing piece of information. Are the dishes getting cleaned or is the wife's method causing rework for dishes that come out still dirty?
We need more information before making a judgment.