Living with someone is quite a separate ordeal from dating them.
You may find when you cohabitate you take up a lot of space together. Your habits are seemingly designed to get on each others' nerves.
A woman's dishwasher loading technique, for example, has really frustrated her wife. Said wife decided to take the debate to Twitter.
But not everybody agreed it was a poor dishwasher technique.
Judge for yourself.
I married her before I ever saw her stack a dishwasher. I can\u2019t take this anymore.pic.twitter.com/BrDHGWkpX9— Lee Beattie (@Lee Beattie) 1629317747
I was mad at my wife about this, but now I can see things could be much worse.pic.twitter.com/rQJBvzjAWb— Kathryn Martinez (@Kathryn Martinez) 1629425432
Reminds me of this classic that was sent to our entire companypic.twitter.com/kvDpeRdkzy— Supporter \ud83c\udff4\u200d\u2620\ufe0f (@Supporter \ud83c\udff4\u200d\u2620\ufe0f) 1629393498
I loathe dishwashers with a passion. So satisfying washing and putting away. Really don't see the point of the things!— Dr Jen Llywelyn \ud83c\udff4\udb40\udc67\udb40\udc62\udb40\udc77\udb40\udc6c\udb40\udc73\udb40\udc7f \ud83c\uddea\ud83c\uddfa \ud83c\udff4\udb40\udc67\udb40\udc62\udb40\udc73\udb40\udc63\udb40\udc74\udb40\udc7f (@Dr Jen Llywelyn \ud83c\udff4\udb40\udc67\udb40\udc62\udb40\udc77\udb40\udc6c\udb40\udc73\udb40\udc7f \ud83c\uddea\ud83c\uddfa \ud83c\udff4\udb40\udc67\udb40\udc62\udb40\udc73\udb40\udc63\udb40\udc74\udb40\udc7f) 1629391020
Looks to me as though space is limited, which leads to imperfect stacking. I would suggest adopting a \u2018pans for the sink - plates for the dishwasher\u2019 policy to mitigate this.— Mick (@Mick) 1629364539
Some people were absolutely horrified by the picture—with one person actually saying the image made her "physically sick."
Another person suggested that there is one person in every marriage who cannot load the dishwasher, so Lee, the woman who began the tweet, was most certainly not alone.
Dishwasher loading - in every marriage there\u2019s one person who can, and one person who can\u2019t, and if you\u2019re not sure which you are, then you can\u2019t.pic.twitter.com/yMcWeiFllS— Regan K (@Regan K) 1629474837
Here are some dishwasher loading techniques that might help avoid an argument:https://www.consumerreports.org/dishwashers/how-to-load-a-dishwasher/?EXTKEY=YSOCIAL_TW\u00a0\u2026— Consumer Reports (@Consumer Reports) 1629395599
Every home needs a Dishwasher monitor. I am ours. God knows that they\u2019d do without me.— MrsD (@MrsD) 1629481175
My husband does this. I used to think he was smart but \u2026 not so much now.— RowanWho (@RowanWho) 1629385975
As Jon Richardson once said, there are two ways to load a dishwasher. There's the right way and there's the way my wife does it.\n\nI sympathise.— Matt (@Matt) 1629394135
Now there are some fair arguments to be considered here.
For example, what if our original poster, or OP's wife, didn't grow up with a dishwasher? Are we making fun of her for her economic disadvantage?
However, most people seem to think some people are just naturally bad at loading a dishwasher.
Oh g*d my daughter does it like this. They clearly need to share a place.— Georgie Agass (@Georgie Agass) 1629402702
This is how my wife\u2019s brother loads his dishwasher. And everything is clean. Every. Damn. Time. And so we\u2019re doing a kitchen reno and are installing a Bosch, just like his. I\u2019m gonna be some kinda pissed if I can\u2019t get the same results.— Derryl Murphy (@Derryl Murphy) 1629475308
That\u2019s not so much stacking as it is throwing the dishes at the dishwasher from across the room!— Kevin (@Kevin) 1629407816
But also\u2026 did it all come out clean?— Gabriella Bennett (@Gabriella Bennett) 1629324270
Years ago I shared a house with someone who stacked all the washed items in the draining rack all over the place and without any method at all. If you wanted a plate you either risked breaking everything pulling it out, or you had to dismantle the whole pile to reach it. pic.twitter.com/i90bazdaAe— The Masked Knitter \ud83c\udff4\udb40\udc67\udb40\udc62\udb40\udc73\udb40\udc63\udb40\udc74\udb40\udc7f \u24cb \ud83d\udd77\ufe0f (@The Masked Knitter \ud83c\udff4\udb40\udc67\udb40\udc62\udb40\udc73\udb40\udc63\udb40\udc74\udb40\udc7f \u24cb \ud83d\udd77\ufe0f) 1629388439
For those of you wondering what is wrong, dishwashers utilize water jets to remove food and particulates. If dishes are piled together, the dirty areas aren't directly exposed to the water jets.
However, some people were just never taught, like OP's wife. But as long as the dishes are getting clean, does it really matter anyway?
And that's the missing piece of information. Are the dishes getting cleaned or is the wife's method causing rework for dishes that come out still dirty?
We need more information before making a judgment.
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