Funerals and funeral rites are different all around the world. Things one culture might think of as disrespectful may be a major part of honoring a loved one to another culture.
Most people in the United States, for example, now treat death as a distant thing and are typically pretty uncomfortable with corpses. Funerals are a somber time for mourning with a dress code and expected hushed voices and somber tones.
Other cultures treat death and funerals as a much more intimate and personal thing, taking the time to tend to the body of their loved ones themselves, often in their own homes.
Some cultures completely disregard the idea that a funeral should be somber and, instead, treat it like a giant party. Some have dancers who carry the coffin; some have funeral strippers; and the funeral we are writing about right now ... well ... that funeral had this.
If yo girl don’t do this at yo funeral is she really yo girl? https://t.co/TxbYLkm661— DreadChapo.com (@DreadChapo.com)1600041855.0
The 20-second clip shows a woman twerking and grinding on top of a wrapped coffin—not something Western funeral-goers are used to seeing. The crowd around her is cheering and celebrating, which is pretty common for these "boisterous" celebration-style funerals.
The woman, wearing jeans and a simple black top, is obviously emotional. Her facial expressions do seem to betray sadness at some points and she leans forward to lay affectionate kisses on the glass covering the open portion.
We can't confirm where the video was shot to be able to tell you if this sort of thing is an established tradition or not, but we aren't really sure that matters. To be honest, what concerns us the most about this video is the fact that the casket seems to be precariously balanced on the back of motorcycles.
What Twitter seems to be struggling with is whether this is just a unique celebration of the loved one who has passed on or if it's trashtastical.
@OutSmokeChapo This is trifling & distasteful🤮 if she doin this she definitely belong to the streets😂🤷🏽♀️— ☀️Sunshine (@☀️Sunshine)1600122843.0
@valenzuelavele @_TheRealBecky_ @OutSmokeChapo It's a beautiful tradition. It helps with grieving as well. To celeb… https://t.co/bOZhY6Xm03— cringe fest 2020 (@cringe fest 2020)1600159441.0
@simpnpimpin At least it appears this was someone she was close to.....hiring strangers to perform at the funeral i… https://t.co/MOrTtBB7Id— Quelqueshue Strong🦅⚜️ (@Quelqueshue Strong🦅⚜️)1600117807.0
@sharxda @OutSmokeChapo I would prefer my loved ones being celebriting my memory and having one big laugh (Some thi… https://t.co/Nq5iDtJUiL— Bernie Tuwila (@Bernie Tuwila)1600248634.0
@OutSmokeChapo Nah, everybody at my funeral gotta have the viola face https://t.co/J7iLbzgPut— Hu3y 💯 (@Hu3y 💯)1600120158.0
@PermedMalcolmX @OutSmokeChapo 😭😭 A real one. U could tell they really loved that guy— dotty 🧜🏾♀️🌺 (@dotty 🧜🏾♀️🌺)1600143295.0
@OutSmokeChapo I would end up in handcuffs if somebody tried this mess at the funeral of a loved one. This is highkey disrespectful.— Allison Hargreeves (@Allison Hargreeves)1600122184.0
@OutSmokeChapo I had to dance after a funeral and I now know why Louisiana does it the way that they do. Let it out… https://t.co/TrLlJYncuR— LAFAYETTE (@LAFAYETTE)1600147930.0
@OutSmokeChapo Black folk will go to a funeral and try to jump in the casket as it’s being lowered, fall out, cry t… https://t.co/IYtKdA06ji— Jeffree Star’s Twin 💫 (@Jeffree Star’s Twin 💫)1600127354.0
@OutSmokeChapo I’ve never seen a woman twerk and cry at the same time .. 🥺.. I’m not mad if this is how you want to… https://t.co/1rSFGwlsnK— Mama Goodaz 🏹🇯🇲 (@Mama Goodaz 🏹🇯🇲)1600178234.0
@OutSmokeChapo i mean in a lot of counties you celebrate life and death, could be through food through dance throug… https://t.co/fbVnNbCiKC— PABLO TESCOBAR (@PABLO TESCOBAR)1600150283.0
@OutSmokeChapo people saying it’s disgusting but it’s a cultural thing lmao , she clearly in grief sis i crying whi… https://t.co/7I0Lm9mRD1— KirenicK (@KirenicK)1600175455.0
@OutSmokeChapo this is so weird especially with the fam around. i am very uncomfortable with the energy created in the studio today😣— kathleen (@kathleen)1600143923.0
@OutSmokeChapo Despite this being unlike anything I’ve ever seen before you could tell it was really an act of love… https://t.co/MK3aYn1p4g— atl barbie (@atl barbie)1600212977.0
It doesn't seem we're going to come to any sort of consensus on this one, which isn't exactly surprising since death and the rituals surrounding it are such a profound and sacred thing for so many. It's one of those things people have passionately held feelings about.
So let's talk about them.
The woman is obviously mourning and obviously emotional. The same can be said for the onlookers who weep and hug one another in the background.
It's their funeral and this is how they want to do it. Who are we to judge?