Fatphobia is rampant in popular culture.
It's nothing new, with a history dating back to the turn of the 20th century, when fatness was swapped with thinness as a sign of wealth in the upper-class.
Now, it shows up as body shaming of women on dating apps like Bumble, where women are given the power to message matches first.
Florence Simpson shared her firsthand experience with fatphobia on the app. Her honesty resulted in the offender, Ben, getting banned by the app entirely.
Don’t you just love men 🤮 No judging my opening question okay🤣 it normally gets hilarious responses! https://t.co/i9GHtAuKSY— Flo🌻 (@Flo🌻) 1621703750.0
In her opening line, Simpson said:
"OK, picture this. You're off to big Tesco & ask if I want anything. I say 'surprise me.' What are you bringing home?"
Ben replied with a single word:
Why consciously match with someone to harass them for their size and waste both people's time?
I would like to reiterate as some people don’t seem to understand. I do not care if he doesn’t find my body type at… https://t.co/30sOOMDNQq— Flo🌻 (@Flo🌻) 1621757065.0
Many women shared their own stories of fatphobia as well as their opinion of Ben.
@FloSimpsonn Wouldn’t he have had to like your profile to match as well? Makes me sick how men think it’s okay to t… https://t.co/eJMvM5mDrS— Tropic with Claire (@Tropic with Claire) 1621713149.0
@FloSimpsonn I matched with a guy, started chatting, he asked me to go for a coffee and then made a fat joke about… https://t.co/taOsdSLHai— LittleHamo (@LittleHamo) 1621754620.0
@LittleHamo @FloSimpsonn That's absolutely disgusting. I'm so sorry he said those things to you. I don't know where… https://t.co/5lmxTX4mSP— 𝕷𝖆𝖚𝖗𝖆 ❥︎🌹 (@𝕷𝖆𝖚𝖗𝖆 ❥︎🌹) 1621778670.0
@FloSimpsonn He’s not even worth a trip to big Tesco. More like a little Lidl or something— harriet💁🏼♀️ (@harriet💁🏼♀️) 1621712664.0
@Hazzzza__ @FloSimpsonn Lidls bakery is too good.. More like a shit corner shop 🤮— Abs👑 (@Abs👑) 1621713302.0
@FloSimpsonn Will always infuriate me seeing how some men and women have the audacity to speak with such disrespect… https://t.co/7Ote3mCgYG— Rhys Tunstall (@Rhys Tunstall) 1621759547.0
@FloSimpsonn Absolutely fantastic opening line. Grotesque and pathetic response🤢— Meggy G ✨ (@Meggy G ✨) 1621703924.0
@FloSimpsonn Best opener ever. Also a one word (AWFUL) reply? Come on mate, this is big Tesco’s.— Chloe Tomalin - Marketing Creative Consultant (@Chloe Tomalin - Marketing Creative Consultant) 1621716152.0
@FloSimpsonn Honestly why match with you 🤦 When I was a teenager we were doing secret Santa in class and it got rou… https://t.co/b49cNRfkVm— Ellen (@Ellen) 1621771461.0
@FloSimpsonn Some men like everyone and then unmatch or ignore according to what they like. A lot of people use dat… https://t.co/BjFDVj9LmT— LoneWolf (@LoneWolf) 1621781041.0
@Valleyme @FloSimpsonn Yeah I met someone that openly admitted to swiping on everyone then making a decision after… https://t.co/arVzeAuGby— Steph (@Steph) 1621835832.0
Though, one bright side was many people got a new opening liner they could use.
@FloSimpsonn This is a brilliant opening question that I am 100% gonna use!!— Becca Wheddon (@Becca Wheddon) 1621807525.0
@FloSimpsonn This is SUCH A GOOD opening question!!! Flo these men do not deserve your time of day xxx— STAR HOLROYD (@STAR HOLROYD) 1621752503.0
@FloSimpsonn Men are grim! Thats a cracking opening message though xxx— Lauren-Ashleigh ♡ (@Lauren-Ashleigh ♡) 1621704551.0
Simpson also got a response from Bumble.
The company said they are removing Ben for his horrid behavior.
@FloSimpsonn Hi Flo! We're so sorry this happened. Rude and abusive behavior is never acceptable in the Hive, and w… https://t.co/n038oFYJu9— bumble (@bumble) 1622055655.0
Thankfully, Ben will not see another day body shaming women on Bumble, but this definitely isn't the last time we will see a story like this until fatphobia and body shaming is no longer accepted.