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Entitled Bride Asks Her Cousin To Be A Last-Minute Bridesmaid, Then Fat Shames Her When She Says No
16 July 2019
Chalermphon Kumchai / EyeEm / pervertw3asel / Reddit
Family can be complicated.
Sharing DNA with someone doesn't automatically create a good relationship.
And it certainly doesn't mean that they're a good person.
Our society expects that families always have to be there for each other though, and that people should go to extremes to help their families out.
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That might be part of what made this Redditor's cousin think that it was acceptable to demand that she be a replacement bridesmaid, but it could also be that the cousin isn't a very good person.
</p><p>Reddit user pervertw3asel posted a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/EntitledBitch/comments/ca9raz/i_dont_speak_to_this_side_of_my_family_like_ever/?utm_content=body&utm_medium=post_embed&utm_name=0733f0f3443a41b0b01aafd4c3d315bf&utm_source=embedly&utm_term=ca9raz" target="_blank">series of screenshots</a> of a conversation that she had with her cousin to Reddit with the caption:
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<em>"I don't speak to this side of my family... like ever."</em>
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<strong>After reading the screenshots, it's not too hard to see why. </strong></p><p><em>Due to the language in the messages, we're not including them here, but you can see them for yourself at</em> <em><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/EntitledBitch/comments/ca9raz/i_dont_speak_to_this_side_of_my_family_like_ever/?utm_content=body&utm_medium=post_embed&utm_name=0733f0f3443a41b0b01aafd4c3d315bf&utm_source=embedly&utm_term=ca9raz" target="_blank"><strong>this link</strong></a></em><strong>.</strong></p><p>
<strong>At first the request seems innocent enough:</strong>
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<em>"Hey, sorry it's last minute but as you know my wedding is on the 20th of this month. [name] backed out, think you can fill in?"</em>
</blockquote><p><strong>pervertw3asel also gives a reasonable response:</strong>
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<em>"Hi [cousin]. As tempting as that sounds I think it's best for me to sit this one out. I hope that things work out for you though, I hope you have a great wedding"</em>
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<strong>Thinking that it might just be a budget concern, the cousin responds:</strong>
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<em>"If it's about money, [name] said she would sell you the dress cheap. You might have to alter it once you get it, but you'd really be doing me a huge favour. So would you like to?"</em>
</blockquote><p><strong>pervertw3asel then clarifies that the money isn't the issue:</strong>
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<em>"I bet it's a gorgeous dress, but I really don't want to be a bridesmaid. Those situations make me super uncomfortable.</em>
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<strong>Instead of just accepting the now clearly set boundary, the cousin decides to push:</strong>
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<em>"You're the only one who can fit her dress. Everyone else is either too small or too short. I desperately need you to step up here."</em>
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<strong>Time to reassert that boundary:</strong>
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<strong></strong><strong></strong><em>"I haven't decided if I should be offended by that or not. [shrugging emoji] Either way, I just don't feel comfortable. Sorry."<strong></strong></em>
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<strong>This assertiveness was apparently just too much for the cousin. </strong></p><p><strong>It was time to begin the guilt trip:</strong>
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<em>"Wow, This is my wedding day. I can't believe you're making this about you. I could care less if you're offended or not. You're being so selfish and self centered."</em>
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<strong>Showing an admirable amount of restraint, pervertw3asel responds:</strong>
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<em>"I just don't want to do something that makes me uncomfortable. It's not a you thing, it's a me thing. Sorry for being self centered, I just really am not interested. I'm sure you can find another person in our family you're closer with than me. Bottom line is I'm not doing it.</em>
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<strong>More guilt tripping, followed by just moving forward as if the answer had been "yes":</strong>
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<em>"It doesn't matter if it makes you "uncomfortable". You just supposed to do things for your family"</em>
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<em>"I'm not going to argue about this. Etransfer the money to me, I'll pick up the dress from [name]"</em>
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<strong>Apparently astounded by the lack of response, she then goes straight for the ultimatum:</strong>
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<em>"?????"</em>
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<em>"You're being a real b*tch about this. If you don't want to do this then I don't want you at my wedding period."</em></blockquote><p>
<strong>That wasn't as much of a threat as the cousin thought:</strong>
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<em>"Well in that case..."</em>
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<em>"No"</em>
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<em></em><strong>This was apparently just too much for the bridezilla. </strong></p><p><strong>She dissolved into pure insults:</strong>
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<em>"You're too fat to be a bridesmaid anyways I can't believe I wasted my time asking you"</em>
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<strong>With that confirmation of her fears realized, pervertw3asel ended the conversation:</strong>
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<strong></strong><em>"[name] definitely had the right idea backing out. Have a great wedding, Let's hope no one else backs out before then. :)"</em>
</blockquote><p><strong>The cousin just had to have the last word, though:</strong><em>"</em></p><blockquote><em>
"<em>F**k off fatty"</em>
</em></blockquote><p><strong>Redditors who read the exchange had no sympathy whatsoever for the entitled bride-to-be.</strong></p><blockquote>
<em>"Me: I'm not going to your wedding. Maybe the next one!" -<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/EntitledBitch/comments/ca9raz/i_dont_speak_to_this_side_of_my_family_like_ever/et74bss?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">GimmePig</a></em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"If her fiancee was smart he'd back out next." -<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/EntitledBitch/comments/ca9raz/i_dont_speak_to_this_side_of_my_family_like_ever/et76h0p?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Ninhursag23</a></em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"Nice, wants her in her wedding just because the dress might fit her, not because she cares about her and wants loved ones with her. I have a funny feeling the other person backed out because of this behavior" -<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/EntitledBitch/comments/ca9raz/i_dont_speak_to_this_side_of_my_family_like_ever/et7c3cz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">MrsEGummings</a></em></blockquote><p><strong>Some had some useful advice:</strong></p><blockquote><em>"I would totally send this Screenshot to everyone else in the wedding, including the fiance. They all deserve to know who they're really dealing with." -</em><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/EntitledBitch/comments/ca9raz/i_dont_speak_to_this_side_of_my_family_like_ever/et7a10t?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"><em>sugartea63</em></a></blockquote><blockquote><em>"</em><em>If being an adult has taught me anything, it's that I no longer have to put myself in uncomfortable situations I do not want to be in because 'we're family.' F*** that noise. It's very liberating to be free from that bullsh*t!" -<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/EntitledBitch/comments/ca9raz/i_dont_speak_to_this_side_of_my_family_like_ever/et7b6kj?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">MobileButcher</a></em></blockquote><p><strong>One had some advice that is good for everyone:</strong></p><blockquote><em>"Don't ever forget it's okay to not talk to family. Your sharing genetic material doesn't oblige you to be abused."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"Family is whoever treats you with love and decency. That's not always your genetic relations."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"You know this, it's clear...just don't let people shame you into forgetting it." -<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/EntitledBitch/comments/ca9raz/i_dont_speak_to_this_side_of_my_family_like_ever/et78kjc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">call-me-the-seeker</a></em></blockquote><p>Families can be an incredibly fulfilling and important part of our lives, but sometimes those families aren't the ones we share genes with. Sometimes they are, just with a few bad eggs. </p><p><strong>Family doesn't mean you have to drop everything to cater to someone's every whim.</strong></p><p>If you know or are a bridezilla, you can forewarn the public with this <strong><em><a href="https://amzn.to/2kfgHvA" target="_blank">shirt</a></em></strong>, available <strong><em><a href="https://amzn.to/2kfgHvA" target="_blank">here</a></em></strong> in a variety of sizes and colors.</p>
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