People Reveal The Cruelest Thing An Ex Ever Said To Them

Most of us have had our unfair share of terrible dates and possibly even worse romantic partners.

While some of them may have had a history of lying for the sake of lying, others may have focused on being cruel, whether the cruel comments were fair to say or not.

Bracing themselves, Redditor El_Guerrero_Maya asked:

"What's the most hurtful thing an ex ever said to you?"

Unreciprocated Love

"She said she mattered to me a lot more than I did to her."

- blahbabooey

"I had an ex say that same thing to me. It still stings nearly 20 years later."

- owlinpeagreenboat

Unwelcome Criticism

"He once asked me if there was anything I’d change about his body. I was confused, but said, 'No, I love your body.'"

"When I, reluctantly, asked him the same question, he said, 'You’d really look better if you gained 15 pounds around your a** area.'"

"He also said I should save up to get my chin surgically altered (yes, I have the chin of a 'Bob’s Burgers' character)."

"He marketed himself as this “women’s empowerment” progressive guy, so when I tell you, I was shocked, lol."

"There were lots of things I admired about him—he was smart and ambitious, and he made me want to be more ambitious, etc. But he really did like to drag me down every chance he got. He simultaneously wanted me to be more confident but never outshine or outsmart him, or he’d get p**sed. I had almost no self-esteem after things finally ended."

"His favorite book was 'Lolita' also; need I say more…"

- Safe_Ad_520

The Absence Of Love

"My ex told me 'I never loved you.'"

- Dismal-Beginning

"'I don't know if I ever loved you' after 10 years of marriage and six months of talking to a stranger online that he never met in person. Wow, just wow."

- chand0605

"Because speaking with someone online creates this fantasy that everything's perfect and the person he's never met is telling him everything he wants to hear. Shame on him for even opening that door, but to be honest, it's good for you in a way because your husband apparently had already checked out of your marriage if he allowed himself to get mentally 'entangled' with someone else. He was searching for something."

"I'm not saying at all that he was in the right, because if something was missing for him, he should have communicated with you about it. I think you're better off without him because, apparently, he didn't give a s**t about you. You deserve better. Everyone deserves better. A spouse who isn't 100% checked into the marriage is not worth having."

"Just my opinion. I'm sorry this happened to you. You're not alone in this. It's way far too common these days. Fight for yourself. Love yourself enough to never settle for less than 100%."

- Different_Lunch_8508

Horrible Priorities

"I had almost died having his baby. My doctor was a piece of sh*t, I had pre-eclampsia, but he let me go on to my due date even though it was obvious something wasn't right. I blew up like a balloon over just a few days, and I gained like 50 pounds of just water weight. I had been a very thin person before this happened, so that much weight gain that quickly ruined my body."

"I had an emergency c-section after being in labor for almost 24 hours. The doctors told my mother that if I could just survive the night, I should live. I was in the hospital for a week. Everyone got to hold my baby before I even got to see him."

"Anyway, that's the backstory, so you'll know what I went through to understand why what he said to me hurt so badly."

"About a month after we were all finally home, he told me he's only attracted to women with flat stomachs. He knew full well that because of what happened to me, I'd never have a fully flat stomach again. Those words made me hate myself."

"It's going on 26 years later, and those words still tear me down."

- Wockety

Not Holding Space For This Person

"They said, 'Breaking up with you felt like deleting a huge file and regaining tons of storage.'"

- BestReddit_

"I told a guy I was afraid I'd always love him more than he loved me, and he said, 'Yeah, you're probably right.'"

"It took me half a year to finally break up with him and much too long to get over him."

"I wish I could have just deleted his storage space."

- elliowot

The Foundation Of Every Relationship

"He said that he couldn’t trust me. When he broke up with me, he said everything was perfect yet something was not right. He left us while struggling with schizophrenia. He was the only one who really actually loved me."

- yglol

"I'm so sorry. I feel your pain, though. I've gone through something similar. She broke up with me more often, saying things like she only used me, or I used her, or she didn't trust me, etc. She was psychotic and couldn't help it. She made it until last year. I haven't been the same since."

- llexicalized

Forced Apart

"She said, 'I’m leaving for Colorado.'"

"High school. Her parents were in a nasty divorce, and one evening, her mom’s car pulled up, she got out, and said that while crying and giving me a hug."

"Her mom yelled, 'We gotta go!' That was it."

"She was the one I never recovered from, and the first time I felt strong feelings and heartbreak."

"We talked on the phone a few times after she moved, but the situation on her end wasn’t great or easy. The first time we talked, we rang up a $300 bill on my parents' line; this was the mid-80s, so it was not like we could text or talk whenever we wanted."

"We missed each other on a few tries, but being young and given the situation, we just died off."

- Ok-Metal-4719

A One-Sided Relationship

"He said that we 'weren't really engaged' after we broke off our three-year engagement, and he had gotten engaged to someone else six months later. We banged into each other one night, and he was giving me an update on his life."

"It really broke my heart because even though our relationship had ended in my mind, we were absolutely engaged over those three years. I had loved him and wanted to spend my life with him."

"To hear him say that, wow, it was just so hurtful."

- TokyoDancer

Collecting Options

"In her break-up talk, she said: I have met four other people I would rather be with than you."

"Still to this day, I don't know who the four other people were."

- Lethal_Dragonfly

"I wouldn't get caught up on it. She probably did that to make you feel insecure, and the reality of it was it was just a couple of dudes at work or from her past that wanted to just have sex. You'll never meet a nicer guy than the one who hasn't had sex with you yet."

- Blissful_EDM

Terrible Body-Shaming

"We were together for two and a half years by that point. Mind you, he has been very, very skinny at the start of our relationship, and I have been fat. Never ever have I insulted or said anything mean about his body."

"He went to gym, bulked up just a little bit (not too much), and then he said, 'A guy like me can't be with a girl your size.'"

"Or when I couldn't find pants in my size (they were up to XXL and I wear XXXL for better comfort), he said, 'They don't make elephant clothes in there.'"

- Ok-Mud_

Emotionally Absent Boyfriend

"He said, 'I never loved you and I don’t see how anyone could.'"

"Then he got bonus points for having his new girlfriend answer his phone after ghosting me for over a week and not telling me what was happening (two and a half year relationship) and her saying 'Sorry, he’s busy!' while laughing."

- iamhumantrash123

"Monstrous" Boundaries

"I got with my ex at a really low point in my life, and I put up with a lot of cheating, lying, true gaslighting, and when I was finally leaving he told me, 'You used to be so nice, and now you’re just a monster.'"

"I lived with that for a long time. Really struggling to understand that putting my foot down isn’t an evil act. That putting up with sh*t that made me uncomfortable wasn’t being nice it was just making it easier for them."

- EchoP0e

No Empathy

"'I don’t care about your feelings.'"

"He said this after I had burst into tears and protested after watching him empty the dirt and rocks from his boots directly onto the carpet after I had spent all day doing literally all the housework."

"I knew it was over."

- VivatRegina

Healthy For The Right Reasons

"My fiancé’s ex-wife told him that maybe she’d want to have sex more if he lost weight. I love his body and his belly. The first year or so of our relationship, he just couldn’t believe it."

- dillpickles103

"D**n, this actually makes me so happy. I have always been insecure about my physique, too thin for a guy. I live in the gym now but hearing that maybe I don’t have to is reassuring."

- sillythebunny

"Exercise for yourself, not for a potential mate. All of our bodies go south eventually. Personally, if someone chose to be with me just (or mostly) because of my physical appearance, I would be terrified of aging. That's no way to live."

- _1109

Held Accountable Instead

"My exes mainly told me what I needed to learn. That I was mean or pushy. These things hurt, and it helped me grow, and I'm glad they told me."

- sikkerhet

"This level of introspection and accountability is rare. Good on you."

- allisone88

It's no surprise that these were hurtful comments that either signified that the relationship was over or offered one more reason why it was already over.

Sometimes, people say the most hurtful things, especially when they're in the low place of a breakup, but these comments were far from excusable.