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Love isn't always meant to be forever. It's especially trying when you fall instantly before knowing somebody fully. Though do we ever know someone fully?


Redditor u/davt4 wanted to know how the fall of love has worked for others by asking.... Redditors who were dating someone that went from "I think I want to marry this person" to "I think I need a restraining order", what happened?

Not my Cat!

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He cut himself in front of me and threatened to stab my cat. SumAngrySalmon

You Proved It!

We were actually engaged to be married.

Then she went on holidays without me and came back pregnant.

She then told me "you have never done anything to prove you really love me... accept this baby and help me raise it to prove it."

I declined and asked her to leave the home that I paid for (and that was in my name)

She refused. So I made arrangements, cancelled my lease, then left and told her there were 4 days left on the lease (I think)

She wailed "But what am I supposed to do? I don't have a job!" TheDevilsAdvokaat

Damn Videogames.....

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We met online. We both had video games in common and hit it off. Fast forward 2 years and we get engaged. All was well. Until he started getting abusive toward me and our pets. I felt stuck because I couldn't afford to live on my own. Then he went on a business trip and I found nasty stuff on a hidden flash drive. Turned it in, he got arrested. Turns out he was also hiring prostitutes and stuff. He's in prison and it's illegal for him to contact me. ForitfiedFerret

The Bullet Dodge.

After being beat down mentally from her, I started suffering from erectile dysfunction at 22 years of age. Eventually I mustered the courage to leave her. She quickly moved on to someone else (who would later become her husband) and called me every week to basically rub it in. Saying how much better he was than me. How much bigger he was that me, etc. etc.

I moved out of state. Changed my number. Never heard from her again. She called my parents and even showed up at their home, but they told her to go away.

About 10 years later my friend ran into an old friend of hers. Apparently my ex got arrested for beating her own mother. Got out of jail, and beat her husband, then tried to take their kids from him. She was arrested again, and later released.

Guess I dodged a huge bullet there. ChocolateSmoovie

Bye Felicia....

She cheated on me the day my dad died. Boocho118

Ignored the Red Flags...

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I was young, dumb, and thought I was in love and ignored many red flags. As he got more comfortable around me he let his crazy out. Someone stole his cell phone and he asked me to purchase a shotgun for him so he could go shoot the person who did it.

It took me another year and a half to leave. I did try breaking up with him but he told me that if I ever tried to break up with him again he'd kill everyone I love and then himself so I'd know what it was like to be alone. That relationship ended in an order of protection against domestic violence. He was nuts. lawn_and_order

Switch Flip....

Started dating in high school, had some ups and downs, but at the time I just chalked it up to us being immature. My last two years of college really proved he just had serious issues. When I moved out of state for good it's like a switch flipped and he got extremely possessive and controlling.

Wanted all my friends numbers, gave me a schedule of when we "need to be in communication" and if I missed any he was blowing my phone up with threats of suicide.

Finally got the restraining order when he showed up to my friends apartment looking for me, threatening to call the police because I still had a pair of his shoes (that I didn't even have). allthejays94

The Schedule....

We were spending a large amount of time together, with me staying at his house several nights of the week.

He went mad one day because he said we weren't "spending enough time together." He pulled out a notepad and drew up a schedule, outlining in excruciating detail each hour that I would spend with him throughout the week from then on. I distinctly remember sitting there, saying nothing and feeling like I was in the Twilight Zone.

Things got significantly crazier from then on, but this moment always sticks out in my mind. screamsomething

Too Crazy for Words....

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The worst version I have of this was a guy that I had been dating, who rammed my truck with a moving van, repeatedly, at an immigration checkpoint in New Mexico, well after dark. He thought it was funny.

He'd been behaving badly, but I just thought it was the stress of the move. The aggravated assault by U Haul is when I decided to break up with him.

He stalked me for years after that, harassing me at work, which led to me getting fired.

I switched from law firms to legal software, and that seemed to make it harder to find me.

His stalking ended in blowing up a brick and mortar mailbox with plastic explosives. I think he laid low after that, because the FBI was looking for him.

He eventually moved back to California, years later. An ex girlfriend of his contacted me about seven years later when she was settling his estate. She wanted to make sure there weren't any children. carbon_sequestration

Peace Out.

Started dating not long after a previous relationship. At first everything was amazing and I did everything for this girl.

For my 21st birthday we went to Alton Towers with 2 of my friends (one boy and one girl) we stayed over at the hotel. We were all in the same room having a drink and a laugh when suddenly my GF storms out the room for no reason.

Rightly so I follow her back to our room as to ask what's up. Before I can even finish my sentence she punches me square in the face, gets me to the floor and kicks me about 5/6 times. I ask why and it's because I'm apparently "always looking at my (girl) friend."

Anyway in the morning we set off home and I assume all is well. We drop my friends off and as I pull up to her house she puts her feet on my windscreen and kicks it 3/4 times, cracking it.

Not sure why I stayed with her for a month after this as she scratched at my face repeatedly when I accepted an old school friend on Facebook. tpejic15

The Transfer Girl. 

I graduated. She wanted to transfer schools. So, we moved to a college town where she told me she'd been accepted as a transfer.

Turns out she hadn't been accepted, and when she applied, was not accepted. She got a job at Walmart while trying to figure out her next move.

After about 2 months she decides we should move to Pittsburgh. She's convinced this will solve all her problems and make her happy ... except we're in a recession and I just got my first good job. I don't want to move.

She became abusive. I didn't want to go home. She was constantly negative and on the edge of a screaming fight. I was just avoiding her at the end.

We were together 4 years before that, and she was always moody but not abusive. Six months of that, and she went to her home town to take a semester at a local school and stay with her parents.

I called her two weeks later and told her not to come back. It had been like a weight was lifted from me, and I never wanted to see her again. User1539

Too Soon!

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I moved my ex in WAY too early. She hated where she was living and I wanted to help her with her mental state so it seemed like a good idea at the time. She didn't have a job so I paid for everything. Whenever she finally did get a job, she would keep all the money to herself and then quit out of nowhere after a couple of weeks or so.

Slowly but surely she started abusing me in pretty much every way but sexual and like a frog in boiling water, I allowed it to happen by justifying it to myself. (I even found out that "financial abuse" is a thing. You know it's a great relationship when it teaches you about a new form of spousal abuse) She used her mental issues to manipulate me into buying her so many things, including a damn laptop! As soon as I ran out of money, we started having problems and $16,000 in credit card debt later, she broke up with me and continued to live in my apartment for another couple of months.

She was on the lease so I couldn't kick her out cuz legally, the apartment was her just as much as it was mine. She finally moved out on my birthday (last December) and I'm STILL picking up the pieces. Zack_WithaK

Bad News. 

He pushed a little girl in a store because she tried to pet his emotional support dog. Instead of just picking up the dog, he put hands on her.

There's a lot more but that sticks out the most.

I recently found out he was arrested again. aliveinjoburg2

The Craziest! 

I was dating a guy. I really liked him. He was smart, funny, and adventurous. We were getting pretty serious, he pretty much lived at my house.

One weekend I went home for my dads birthday. All of my brothers were home, I have 5 of them. We ate drank and were merry. One of my sister-in-laws took some pictures and posted them on facebook with me tagged in them.

Got back to my house Sunday evening and my boyfriend was coming over shorty to hang out/ spend the night. When he got there he was basically frothing at the mouth.

He shoved me and called me a whore. Started pushing me around ranting about how he had to see me whoring myself all over the internet and hanging on a bunch of guys.

I told him they were my brothers, but at that point I was done with him. I told him to get the heck out of my house. He took that as an invitation to throw me up against a wall and try to force me to kiss him.

My roomie heard the commotion and came out of her room with a bat. Then crap head made the only good decision he made that day and decided to leave. Kicked in a pantry door and wrecked some drywall on his way out though.

I threw all his stuff in a dumpster. He ended up stalking me for years. Showing up drunk at places I'd moved to after we dated. Calling after I'd changed my number. Even texted me on the week of my wedding to ask me to reconsider marrying him instead. Yeah you crazy fool, I want to dump the love of my life for a crazy stalker. littleredhoodlum

Junior Year.

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Started dating this girl during my junior year of high school. We dated for about 7-8 months when she started becoming a huge flirt. I don't judge but it's not something I could emotionally handle so I called it off. I started getting closer to one of my best friends as she was a huge support during the break up and eventually caught feelings.

My ex did not like that. Late one night I see her flexing her dad's gun on her instagram and in the comments saying "I'll shoot the both of them." Went to the dean's office at school the next day and she got arrested and spent the night in jail. Actually did end up giving a no-contact order. BoyBrandeeno

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Started dating not long after a previous relationship. At first everything was amazing and I did everything for this girl.

For my 21st birthday we went to Alton Towers with 2 of my friends (one boy and one girl) we stayed over at the hotel. We were all in the same room having a drink and a laugh when suddenly my GF storms out the room for no reason. Rightly so I follow her back to our room as to ask what's up. Before I can even finish my sentence she punches me square in the face, gets me to the floor and kicks me about 5/6 times. I ask why and it's because I'm apparently "always looking at my (girl) friend."

Anyway in the morning we set off home and I assume all is well. We drop my friends off and as I pull up to her house she puts her feet on my windscreen and kicks it 3/4 times, cracking it.

Not sure why I stayed with her for a month after this as she scratched at my face repeatedly when I accepted an old school friend on Facebook. tpejic15

School Daze.

My relationship with my ex in uni seemed really great - He loved me a lot, was supper attentive, I even went on holiday with his family and at some point I thought we'd eventually marry and start a family.

Long story short, when I got busy with school (final year) and didn't see him as often, he stated getting clingy and jealous of everyone (including my female friends).

I tried to break up with him probably 3 times before he accepted it. Explained how I wanted to focus on my studies and the situation want good for either of us.

The last time he seemed to understand my point and we remained friends. This also didn't last long, and he eventuality stared stalking me online and in person and constantly bothering my friends. He managed to go to my senior year party, even though he wasn't in my year. Eventually he texted me calling me a whore, that I had cheated on him, you name it. He also told this to all our mutual friends in uni, so that was fun. He acted like a total lunatic begging for me to reconsider a friendship after that, but obviously there was no chance for that. The last straw was him showing up at the graduation ceremony making it awkward for me and all my family. jKATT13

Beyond Broken.

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I started dating this amazing girl, but she was just getting out of an abusive marriage, and I was her first female partner.

She started showing up at my work with flowers and coffee, which was sweet, but I had never told her where my office was. Then, she started showing up at my house at all hours, and would get upset when I needed to sleep (I worked graves). She then wanted me to meet her daughters, which I wasn't comfortable with, because we were in the first stages of a relationship.

I decided to break it off. She was too needy, which was understandable coming from someone who had just left an abusive relationship AND discovered their sexuality, but I wasn't the person that could guide her. She decided that I was just afraid of love, and started leaving books of poetry on my porch, and leaving long letters in my mailbox.

I finally had to call law enforcement after I came home to her in my bed. She had taken a ladder to my second story room window (I lived with roommates) and broken in. I found her naked in my bed, covered in blood from cutting herself. She proceeded to tell me that I was the only thing keeping her alive.

I cut off all contact, but I truly hope that she has gotten some help and is doing well. She was a wonderful woman, but so, so broken. MC_Etchasketch

While You Were Sleeping.

She punched me in the face while I was sleeping.

Apparently my phone had woken her when I received a text in the middle of the night from a girl asking if there was any chance I could come pick her up. She assumed I was cheating and figured that the most efficient way of addressing her concerns was to just punch me in the face--hard--while I lay there sleeping.

The text was from a (non-Alabamian) cousin who had some sort of semi-emergency and needed to get picked up from a party. meatfrappe

Idolizing Charlie....

Oh I have two of these! The first one was a guy 7 years older than me. One day I came home from work and was told that my underage half-sister claimed that he tried to kiss her. He was drunk and passed out. I could wake him up to get his side of the story. So I packed up his stuff in his car and made him leave when he woke up. I think we were together for 3 years and that's how it ended.

Second time was a guy that kind of idolized Charles Manson. I was young, dumb, and up for taking most any drug so we had a fast and weird relationship. Then he pushed me away by pretending to find god or something. I left, started dating the guy I had a crush on, and got a call that psycho stabbed his father a bunch of times and wrapped him in a shower curtain. My crush stayed by my side despite the ridiculousness and 12 years later we're married with absolutely no drama in our lives whatsoever. luckyratfoot

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