We all need a pick-me-up now and then. The news can be depressing and so many of us are used to hearing nothing but messages of gloom and doom from the moment we step outside.
Thanks to Redditor Qther, we've received a bit of a reprieve. They asked the online community: "What's the best thing someone has ever said to you?"
"A guy who I knew from the days..."Giphy
"I would've done it if you weren't there for me"
A guy who I knew from the days I played WoW - we had a pretty fun time, all the time. I was 14 at the time(and lying about my age, ofc), he was like 20.
During one sleepless night, he just hit me up with a message saying "I'm sorry bro, I just can't take it anymore."
He had just broke up with his girlfriend a few days before. Turns out he swallowed an entire bottle of pills, and he was telling me everything that was going on. How he was coughing, how he started puking, how he's starting to fall asleep and he knows it's going to be for the last time.
His parents were sleeping in the next room, while he was on the brink of death. I was as supportive as I could, telling him that it can get better, begging him to wake his parents up or call an ambulance because one girl wasn't worth this much of a loss.
I was trembling the entire time, trying to talk some sense into his head. Somehow, I managed to make it happen. He woke up his parents, they called an ambulance, he was hospitalized for around two weeks.
During those two weeks, I continually hit him up asking how he was feeling - I mostly spoke to his sister, as he was asleep most of the time. She told me I was the only person who asked.
After he got out of the hospital, he told me the magic words: "I would've done it if you weren't there for me." These words determined me to want to become a psychiatrist.
This stuff happened ~10 years ago. He's happily married now, with a kid on the way and with what seems to be a pretty fulfilling life. We haven't spoken until that incident.
Choose life, people. It can always get better.
"I've been recovering..."
"I never stay up this late but I want to eat cereal. And talk to you. Mainly talk to you, but I figured I might as well eat cereal."
I've been recovering and it means a lot as to how much my friend cares about my well-being. I'm blessed.
'That drawing you did is badass!' Coworker who seemed wildly indifferent toward me up until that point
Random coworkers and strangers at work '[Aforementioned Coworker] showed me your work. You're very talented!'
Context: posted art on Facebook. A couple likes but not by this coworker. Instead he hunted me down in person to tell me how much he likes it. Then I had a smattering of other people who weren't on my friends list or who I didn't even know, come and compliment me. I had to work out from them that not only was coworker impressed, but he was going around showing other people.
Sometimes people compliment you when it's expected of them: to assure you, to befriend you, when you're down, when you clearly are proud of what you did.
A person: I went to lunch with my grandpa the other day and he looked at me all teary eyed, gave me a hug, and told me "you just look so good, I'm so proud of you. Grandma would love to see you like this."
The context is that I'm a recovering addict, and the last time I saw him I was still getting high. Also the last time I saw my grandma before she passed.
I've been sober for over a year now.
"I was buying..."
I was buying a pregnancy test and the cashier at the pharmacy said sweetly "I hope you find what you're looking for." And i guess if you're going to say something at all that's the one.
"I was a new mom..."Giphy
I was a new mom staying home with my newborn son. He had a heart condition and on top of that he had horrible reflux. Honestly looking back, that whole time of my life was a big blur. I remember usually needing a shower and a break. Spot cleaning my hair in the sink after being spit up on was a regular thing for me.
They say you should sleep when the baby sleeps. I had a hard time with this because there was always so much to do. On top of that, I was afraid I wouldn't wake up if I slept when he did. I was soooo tired.
One day my mom and my sister came over to visit. I can't remember what I said but I remember talking to my mom in the kitchen when she stopped, looked at me, and said:
"Go to bed. Just… go to bed"
My mom and sister spent the night. I had the best sleep ever knowing that they got him and he was safe and sound.
And THAT was the greatest thing anyone has ever said to me.
"Was on a train journey..."
Was on a train journey with my 2 daughters recently and we were just chatting about everything and anything and we had a very enjoyable time. After an hour or so the man sitting across the aisle stood up to get of the train, but not before he made me a compliment for being a swell mum and having 2 lovely and inquisitive girls. I regularly have doubts as to how to best raise my kids - I think most parents can relate - so this made my day.
"It was a small thing..."
It was a small thing:
I gave the lunch I had brought with me one winter weekday to a destitute man huddled near the locked front doors of a church. (I'd gone there to practice for a forthcoming organ recital.)
He simply said, "Thank you - I haven't had any food for about 3 days."
It seemed as though he was as starved for someone - anyone - to care about him as for the food itself.
"A girl I'm currently..."Giphy
A girl I'm currently getting to know, recently admitted to liking me. She was explaining to me what she liked about me, wow.
She was like its everything you do, the way you smile, the little habits you have. When you whisper, when you laugh.
I was genuinely gobsmacked.
"Said by my boss..."
"You're so cute... we love you."
Said by my boss and my second-in-charge when I was questioning my position in the company.
They are old enough to be my parents, who aren't the best role models in the world. Having people who weren't related to me acknowledging my existence was the best thing in the world to me.
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